You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I do work out and eat healthy , even play soccer weekly , but with 10 hours sitting (8 work + 2 commute ) it is hard to make up that easilyThere are steroids like Tren that helps cut weight....lol that is not the route I'd suggest tho. If you want to lose weight you are just going to have to put it in the hard work- it's never too late. I was 225 at the start of June (I had a bit of a gut). I am now down to 206. Just started working out 5 days a week, walking for 2 hours every sat and sun and changing my eating habits a bit. I eliminated nothing but minimized how much I would have and frequency - ie I would have ice cream only once a week. As long as your active you can generally enjoy the same things because you'll burn them off.
I feel you bro. In most of my corporate jobs same **** happened to me, a lot of sitting most of the time. You gotta try working it into your schedule - wake up an 1 hr or 2 early and work outI do work out and eat healthy , even play soccer weekly , but with 10 hours sitting (8 work + 2 commute ) it is hard to make up that easily
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.