"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Does anyone still have brad80 secret guide?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
TheGambino
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touma.akagi
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What a tragedy.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Then I have no idea either
Googled bradd80 and secret guide, the post was in the archive.is result…
http://archive.is/BdgmN
Recommend it be copied to or bookmarked in Hall of Excellence section if legally possible.
Google is your friend.…
zekko
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Hey, you found it. Good job!
It appears that only the first page of the thread is there though. I'm not that familiar with Brad's guide. Were there more parts of the guide on the following pages? Or was it just discussion?
Yes, it apparently only pulled one page with 11 parts. I have no idea how many original parts there were also.
Scribd has what they say is a page 2.…
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
sazc
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My guess is that, since he is a lawyer, his company handles/saw an increase in sexual assault type cases and he realized that his posts on here might be viewed incorrectly. So he stopped posting and got his posts and account deleted.
Again, this is my uneducated guess. I just started a new job and the guidelines were clear, if I visited a site that has ANY sexual connotation from a company assets, that was grounds for termination.
$$$ > ss posting
My theory is that Brad worried his posts here would threaten his income stream.
Atom Smasher
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zekko
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Oh yeah, I had forgotten about that. Very strange.
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Damn you're a genius. Thanks @sazc
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I wonder why. Hmm.
Tilex
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Probably got his account hacked or someone used his computer and found out he uses this site, so they started posting as him.
Normal people don't suddenly go insane like that unless they hit rock bottom or started consuming a mixture of drugs.