Do you tolerate chicks that are dating multiple men?

[MatureDJ]

I certainly lose interest anytime this is the case, at least in the sense of me wanting to do the lifting in the relationship. That said, if she's making it easy, and I'm getting sexed, then it's not a problem (of course, there is the problem that such a woman would not make a suitable wife)

 

[The Duke]

My desire to take them serious quickly diminishes, to the point that I would have to be hard up to go out with her again. It really says a lot about who she is. This isn't healthy behavior for women.

 

[Westminster]

No, I wouldn't tolerate it.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Women are naturally more sexually monogamous, and even if they’re talking to multiple men, there’s usually a clear hierarchy; one guy gets most of her emotional and sexual energy. So it’s naive to expect she’s not talking to anyone else when you meet her. But if she’s sleeping with you, chances are she’s not sleeping with others.

The real question is: are you okay with her having orbiters? For me, if it’s a committed relationship, then no. But if it’s casual, I don’t care unless it affects the dynamic between us.

 

[SW15]

Women are naturally more sexually monogamous, and even if they’re talking to multiple men, there’s usually a clear hierarchy; one guy gets most of her emotional and sexual energy. So it’s naive to expect she’s not talking to anyone else when you meet her. But if she’s sleeping with you, chances are she’s not sleeping with others.

At the start of nearly every interaction, a woman is likely going on dates with multiple men. The number of dates she's going on depends on if she's a user of swipe apps. If she's a swipe app user and a swipe app was the reason for the first date, that's a scenario where there will be the most competition.

In the majority of cases, women will have sex with only 1-2 men that they are seeing at a given time. It is more than likely one as you indicated in your post.

It's important to spike her emotions and make her desire sex with you over any other guy in her rotation. Most women have more abundance of options than most of us realize.

The real question is: are you okay with her having orbiters? For me, if it’s a committed relationship, then no. But if it’s casual, I don’t care unless it affects the dynamic between us.

It's a bad idea is she has orbiters while she's a committed relationship.

I have the same point of view you have on both committed and casual interactions.

I tend to prefer extended, committed relationships.

 

[Solomon]

Honestly I wouldn't take her seriosuly, I always assume most women nowadays are seeing multiple men especially if you meet them off "Bop Apps" the amount of women who admitted to not only having one FWB but multiple is a huge turn off. Suprinsgily some women will admit to it and some won't but I certainly don't take them seriosuly

 

[LTG71]

I believe this would be the case for the majority of men. Be it innate jealousy or just biological programming. Most don’t want their potential mate to be spending time with other men. It’s a waste of time, resources and energy if the effort is not reciprocated and exclusive. You’re giving your full effort but only getting a fraction of her’s. Most will not put up with that.

 

[The Duke]

Years ago I dated this 38yo cougar/former promo model who was a few years older than me. While on the date she told me she had offers from 3 other guys to go out that nite and wanted me to know she chose me. lol.

I met up with her one more time before we had sex. She was one of very few that required a condom. I went to get one out of her bathroom and found a huge box of condoms. At that moment I realized she was probably fuhking multiple guys. That was the last time I ever wanted to see her.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I believe this would be the case for the majority of men. Be it innate jealousy or just biological programming. Most don’t want their potential mate to be spending time with other men. It’s a waste of time, resources and energy if the effort is not reciprocated and exclusive. You’re giving your full effort but only getting a fraction of her’s. Most will not put up with that.

That’s really the foundation of the whole “spinning plates” concept. Men are encouraged to talk to multiple women to level the playing field, especially since the old blue pill mindset was all about focusing on one woman, even though she might be talking to several men. When a guy only talks to one woman, it often leads to “oneitis,” driven by a scarcity mentality.

When a man talks to multiple women or can easily replace one, his concern about what any individual woman is doing decreases significantly, especially if she doesn’t show signs of being wife material.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Up until the point of exclusivity you should not care and you should be thankful she is because they are likely making you look a whole lot better to her.

And if that isn't the case, that's a problem you need to resolve, because it should be the case.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Up until the point of exclusivity you should not care and you should be thankful she is because they are likely making you look a whole lot better to her.

You should never become exclusive with a woman who sleeps around with multiple men. Such women are for recreational use only.

 

[Slowhandluke]

"dating" vs "having sex" with different men mean different things. fooling around or having sex with multiple mean, hard no.. else ok

 

[BaronOfHair]

I certainly lose interest anytime this is the case....

You end up with lots of chicks who turn out to be the neighborhood bike, hoss? May be wise to acquire your lays in places outside of dive bars and trailer parks

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You should never become exclusive with a woman who sleeps around with multiple men. Such women are for recreational use only.

Every women you ever dated was likely dating more than just you when you began a relationship.

Really naive to think this isn't the case.

Maybe it protects your ego but that's not reality.

 

[BPH]

"dating" vs "having sex" with different men mean different things. fooling around or having sex with multiple mean, hard no.. else ok

This is pretty much my philosophy.

I wouldn't expect somebody to do this for me if I were doing the exact opposite; I'd feel like a hypocrite.

 

[zekko]

Up until the point of exclusivity you should not care and you should be thankful she is because they are likely making you look a whole lot better to her.

I've always thought it was funny about this forum and other manosphere sites that guys here expect to be able to be out banging five HB9s at a time, but none of them should be allowed to even have any orbiters. I mean, I get it, but if you're not exclusive with her, you don't really have the right to make such demands of her. Unless you're like the king of Babylon or something.

Having said that, I definitely prefer women who practice serial monogamy. Where they'll date one guy at a time, dismiss him if he doesn't meet her needs, and move on to the next. It seems more palatable.

 

[MatureDJ]

Women are naturally more sexually monogamous, and even if they’re talking to multiple men, there’s usually a clear hierarchy; one guy gets most of her emotional and sexual energy. So it’s naive to expect she’s not talking to anyone else when you meet her. But if she’s sleeping with you, chances are she’s not sleeping with others.

The real question is: are you okay with her having orbiters? For me, if it’s a committed relationship, then no. But if it’s casual, I don’t care unless it affects the dynamic between us.

I don't have a problem with a chick only sexing one man at a time - in fact, that's the way it should be. The thing is, if I'm not on the path to take the spot, I lose the verve to continue to pursue.

 

[MatureDJ]

Every women you ever dated was likely dating more than just you when you began a relationship.

Really naive to think this isn't the case.

Maybe it protects your ego but that's not reality.

Yes, but was it that the men she was "dating" just men that paid for her dinner, etc.? The frustrated chump buying meals for her might be thinking he's dating her, but really he's not.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Yes, but was it that the men she was "dating" just men that paid for her dinner, etc.? The frustrated chump buying meals for her might be thinking he's dating her, but really he's not.

Lol is this scenario any better? I'd take a ho over a dinner ho personally.

 

[BadBoy89]

If she’s of the age where she cannot get pregnant easily she can have all the orbiters she wants. The more, the better,

If she‘s of the age where she can get pregnant easily, then no not gonna happen.