"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Do you think men who take "women's jobs" are viewed as having lower Sexual Market Value?

MatureDJ

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:

https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2017/05/men-in-nursing/526623/

On the one hand, being in field dominated by women should lead to a lot more social contacts (not necessarily dating a co-worker, but meeting her friends, etc.), but on the other hand, I could see being a detriment, as per this article:

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/06/24/opinion/sunday/men-dont-want-to-be-nurses-their-wives-agree.html

I myself was in a very masculine career (engineering, and then programming), and going back through my sausage fest engineering college career, and before then an all-boy's school :mad:, I have no idea what it's like to have women around in my primary sphere, but I digress.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm an Emergency Room Nurse and prior to this was a first responder and firefighter. So I went from a male dominated field to a female dominated field. I see no difference in the way women respond to what I do. In fact, quite the opposite since I am in emergency medicine. I get a lot of comments like "I don't know how you do what you do" and questions like "what's the worst thing you've ever seen?" If I was a floor nurse then it might be different. But being on the front lines of situations that equate life or death I get a lot of respect from pretty much everyone.

Now if I was a makeup artist or hair dresser than probably yes...
 

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Doesn't matter what you do. SMV is directly and primarily influenced by attraction.

So if you're a nurse...Be the best nurse the world has ever seen.

Mind your mission.
 

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It doesn't matter. What could lead to "detriment" is if the man has a feminine personality (and is straight of course) but that's with every career.
 

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I'm sure there are some women who might find it a turnoff when a guy is in a traditionally female field. But both the job market and perceptions about this are changing with the times, so I wouldn't sweat it. I'm sure many woman would also look up to a guy who was a nurse.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yap they are. We can love or no that fact, but simply that is a fact.
 

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:

https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2017/05/men-in-nursing/526623/

On the one hand, being in field dominated by women should lead to a lot more social contacts (not necessarily dating a co-worker, but meeting her friends, etc.), but on the other hand, I could see being a detriment, as per this article:

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/06/24/opinion/sunday/men-dont-want-to-be-nurses-their-wives-agree.html

I myself was in a very masculine career (engineering, and then programming), and going back through my sausage fest engineering college career, and before then an all-boy's school :mad:, I have no idea what it's like to have women around in my primary sphere, but I digress.
If he's nice in those environment yes . It will raise his estrogen. If he's a player in there he can thrive.
 
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