"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do you think men who take "women's jobs" are viewed as having lower Sexual Market Value?

MatureDJ

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:

https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2017/05/men-in-nursing/526623/

On the one hand, being in field dominated by women should lead to a lot more social contacts (not necessarily dating a co-worker, but meeting her friends, etc.), but on the other hand, I could see being a detriment, as per this article:

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/06/24/opinion/sunday/men-dont-want-to-be-nurses-their-wives-agree.html

I myself was in a very masculine career (engineering, and then programming), and going back through my sausage fest engineering college career, and before then an all-boy's school :mad:, I have no idea what it's like to have women around in my primary sphere, but I digress.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'm an Emergency Room Nurse and prior to this was a first responder and firefighter. So I went from a male dominated field to a female dominated field. I see no difference in the way women respond to what I do. In fact, quite the opposite since I am in emergency medicine. I get a lot of comments like "I don't know how you do what you do" and questions like "what's the worst thing you've ever seen?" If I was a floor nurse then it might be different. But being on the front lines of situations that equate life or death I get a lot of respect from pretty much everyone.

Now if I was a makeup artist or hair dresser than probably yes...
 

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Doesn't matter what you do. SMV is directly and primarily influenced by attraction.

So if you're a nurse...Be the best nurse the world has ever seen.

Mind your mission.
 

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It doesn't matter. What could lead to "detriment" is if the man has a feminine personality (and is straight of course) but that's with every career.
 

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I'm sure there are some women who might find it a turnoff when a guy is in a traditionally female field. But both the job market and perceptions about this are changing with the times, so I wouldn't sweat it. I'm sure many woman would also look up to a guy who was a nurse.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yap they are. We can love or no that fact, but simply that is a fact.
 

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:

https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2017/05/men-in-nursing/526623/

On the one hand, being in field dominated by women should lead to a lot more social contacts (not necessarily dating a co-worker, but meeting her friends, etc.), but on the other hand, I could see being a detriment, as per this article:

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/06/24/opinion/sunday/men-dont-want-to-be-nurses-their-wives-agree.html

I myself was in a very masculine career (engineering, and then programming), and going back through my sausage fest engineering college career, and before then an all-boy's school :mad:, I have no idea what it's like to have women around in my primary sphere, but I digress.
If he's nice in those environment yes . It will raise his estrogen. If he's a player in there he can thrive.
 
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