That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
On a more fundamental level, men aren't and WON'T be achieving any semblance of financial solidness until their 30+ nowadays, and this number will likely climb at all points in the future. What the video in The OP describes isn't remotely shocking, when one recognizes that most men don't really begin serious careers until their 3rd decade of lifeMore and more younger women are becoming disillusioned with "men" their age.
I say men in quotes because many are more like immature teenagers that never plan on growing up.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
To say nothing of the demasculation of young men, much of which has been done intentionally IMO. Check out this video, where males of different ages are asked who their celebrity crush is. Once it gets to a certain age, an unusual number of guys list men as their crush, and/or come across as rather feminine:More and more younger women are becoming disillusioned with "men" their age.
I say men in quotes because many are more like immature teenagers that never plan on growing up.
Younger, broke dudes can get laid.A broke dude has more serious obstacles to navigate(like getting a few bucks in his pocket + establishing a steady cash flow)than getting underneath some broad's thong. Making poonany #1 on your list of priorities when you're sleeping in a warehouse abandoned during Carter's presidency is tantamount to folks in The West Bank sweating who'll win this season of X Factor, and not giving much thought to avoiding being carpet bombed out of existence
To everything there is a season. For a period during The 70s and even early-esque 80s, androgyny was riding high, thanks to the effects of glam rock and hair metal. Things went to the opposite extreme afterwards, and roided out he-men like Arnie, Stallone, Van Damme, and Chuck Norris became hip. Something similar will happen again, sometime in the near futureTo say nothing of the demasculation of young men, much of which has been done intentionally IMO. Check out this video, where males of different ages are asked who their celebrity crush is. Once it gets to a certain age, an unusual number of guys list men as their crush, and/or come across as rather feminine:
It can be done, same way The US government CAN send drones into most of the 3rd World and wipe out entire villages... Whether these are especially wise courses of action is what I questionYounger, broke dudes can get laid
When you are an unemployed male and/or a broke male, you are still horny and you still desire sex. Sexual desire is not dependent upon employment status or net worth.Much as we all enjoy sex, a decent place to live, nutritious meals, and having enough cash to maintain both are pretty f-cking important also, are they not?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Not saying it's "wrong" to have those urges while broke. Just that prioritizing sating them over getting your financial situation squared away is moronicWhen you are an unemployed male and/or a broke male, you are still horny and you still desire sex. Sexual desire is not dependent upon employment status or net worth.
Sexual release is part of basic needs alongside of food, water, and shelter.
There's only so much time that one can spend in job interviews if unemployed. During unemployment, many people have a lot of free time, which is more time for app swiping and stranger approaching.Not saying it's "wrong" to have those urges while broke. Just that prioritizing sating them over getting your financial situation squared away is moronic
But I wouldn't call myself a silver fox. Most people think I'm in my early 20s.There's only so much time that one can spend in job interviews if unemployed. During unemployment, many people have a lot of free time, which is more time for app swiping and stranger approaching.
If employed and broke, that's also a bad spot. @BPH has made that work as he has been able to seduce while not in a good employment situation and living with his parents in his late 20s/early 30s.
That's true. At your age, you can get away with your circumstances. Someone in the silver fox age range (40+) can't get away with it.But I wouldn't call myself a silver fox. Most people think I'm in my early 20s.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Not to mention picking your nose, binge watching Law and Order reruns, throwing knives at the neighbor's cat, burning down day cares...During unemployment, many people have a lot of free time, which is more time for app swiping and stranger approaching.