You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
On a more fundamental level, men aren't and WON'T be achieving any semblance of financial solidness until their 30+ nowadays, and this number will likely climb at all points in the future. What the video in The OP describes isn't remotely shocking, when one recognizes that most men don't really begin serious careers until their 3rd decade of lifeMore and more younger women are becoming disillusioned with "men" their age.
I say men in quotes because many are more like immature teenagers that never plan on growing up.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
To say nothing of the demasculation of young men, much of which has been done intentionally IMO. Check out this video, where males of different ages are asked who their celebrity crush is. Once it gets to a certain age, an unusual number of guys list men as their crush, and/or come across as rather feminine:More and more younger women are becoming disillusioned with "men" their age.
I say men in quotes because many are more like immature teenagers that never plan on growing up.
Younger, broke dudes can get laid.A broke dude has more serious obstacles to navigate(like getting a few bucks in his pocket + establishing a steady cash flow)than getting underneath some broad's thong. Making poonany #1 on your list of priorities when you're sleeping in a warehouse abandoned during Carter's presidency is tantamount to folks in The West Bank sweating who'll win this season of X Factor, and not giving much thought to avoiding being carpet bombed out of existence
To everything there is a season. For a period during The 70s and even early-esque 80s, androgyny was riding high, thanks to the effects of glam rock and hair metal. Things went to the opposite extreme afterwards, and roided out he-men like Arnie, Stallone, Van Damme, and Chuck Norris became hip. Something similar will happen again, sometime in the near futureTo say nothing of the demasculation of young men, much of which has been done intentionally IMO. Check out this video, where males of different ages are asked who their celebrity crush is. Once it gets to a certain age, an unusual number of guys list men as their crush, and/or come across as rather feminine:
It can be done, same way The US government CAN send drones into most of the 3rd World and wipe out entire villages... Whether these are especially wise courses of action is what I questionYounger, broke dudes can get laid
When you are an unemployed male and/or a broke male, you are still horny and you still desire sex. Sexual desire is not dependent upon employment status or net worth.Much as we all enjoy sex, a decent place to live, nutritious meals, and having enough cash to maintain both are pretty f-cking important also, are they not?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Not saying it's "wrong" to have those urges while broke. Just that prioritizing sating them over getting your financial situation squared away is moronicWhen you are an unemployed male and/or a broke male, you are still horny and you still desire sex. Sexual desire is not dependent upon employment status or net worth.
Sexual release is part of basic needs alongside of food, water, and shelter.
There's only so much time that one can spend in job interviews if unemployed. During unemployment, many people have a lot of free time, which is more time for app swiping and stranger approaching.Not saying it's "wrong" to have those urges while broke. Just that prioritizing sating them over getting your financial situation squared away is moronic
But I wouldn't call myself a silver fox. Most people think I'm in my early 20s.There's only so much time that one can spend in job interviews if unemployed. During unemployment, many people have a lot of free time, which is more time for app swiping and stranger approaching.
If employed and broke, that's also a bad spot. @BPH has made that work as he has been able to seduce while not in a good employment situation and living with his parents in his late 20s/early 30s.
That's true. At your age, you can get away with your circumstances. Someone in the silver fox age range (40+) can't get away with it.But I wouldn't call myself a silver fox. Most people think I'm in my early 20s.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Not to mention picking your nose, binge watching Law and Order reruns, throwing knives at the neighbor's cat, burning down day cares...During unemployment, many people have a lot of free time, which is more time for app swiping and stranger approaching.