She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
On a more fundamental level, men aren't and WON'T be achieving any semblance of financial solidness until their 30+ nowadays, and this number will likely climb at all points in the future. What the video in The OP describes isn't remotely shocking, when one recognizes that most men don't really begin serious careers until their 3rd decade of lifeMore and more younger women are becoming disillusioned with "men" their age.
I say men in quotes because many are more like immature teenagers that never plan on growing up.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
To say nothing of the demasculation of young men, much of which has been done intentionally IMO. Check out this video, where males of different ages are asked who their celebrity crush is. Once it gets to a certain age, an unusual number of guys list men as their crush, and/or come across as rather feminine:More and more younger women are becoming disillusioned with "men" their age.
I say men in quotes because many are more like immature teenagers that never plan on growing up.
Younger, broke dudes can get laid.A broke dude has more serious obstacles to navigate(like getting a few bucks in his pocket + establishing a steady cash flow)than getting underneath some broad's thong. Making poonany #1 on your list of priorities when you're sleeping in a warehouse abandoned during Carter's presidency is tantamount to folks in The West Bank sweating who'll win this season of X Factor, and not giving much thought to avoiding being carpet bombed out of existence
To everything there is a season. For a period during The 70s and even early-esque 80s, androgyny was riding high, thanks to the effects of glam rock and hair metal. Things went to the opposite extreme afterwards, and roided out he-men like Arnie, Stallone, Van Damme, and Chuck Norris became hip. Something similar will happen again, sometime in the near futureTo say nothing of the demasculation of young men, much of which has been done intentionally IMO. Check out this video, where males of different ages are asked who their celebrity crush is. Once it gets to a certain age, an unusual number of guys list men as their crush, and/or come across as rather feminine:
It can be done, same way The US government CAN send drones into most of the 3rd World and wipe out entire villages... Whether these are especially wise courses of action is what I questionYounger, broke dudes can get laid
When you are an unemployed male and/or a broke male, you are still horny and you still desire sex. Sexual desire is not dependent upon employment status or net worth.Much as we all enjoy sex, a decent place to live, nutritious meals, and having enough cash to maintain both are pretty f-cking important also, are they not?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Not saying it's "wrong" to have those urges while broke. Just that prioritizing sating them over getting your financial situation squared away is moronicWhen you are an unemployed male and/or a broke male, you are still horny and you still desire sex. Sexual desire is not dependent upon employment status or net worth.
Sexual release is part of basic needs alongside of food, water, and shelter.
There's only so much time that one can spend in job interviews if unemployed. During unemployment, many people have a lot of free time, which is more time for app swiping and stranger approaching.Not saying it's "wrong" to have those urges while broke. Just that prioritizing sating them over getting your financial situation squared away is moronic
But I wouldn't call myself a silver fox. Most people think I'm in my early 20s.There's only so much time that one can spend in job interviews if unemployed. During unemployment, many people have a lot of free time, which is more time for app swiping and stranger approaching.
If employed and broke, that's also a bad spot. @BPH has made that work as he has been able to seduce while not in a good employment situation and living with his parents in his late 20s/early 30s.
That's true. At your age, you can get away with your circumstances. Someone in the silver fox age range (40+) can't get away with it.But I wouldn't call myself a silver fox. Most people think I'm in my early 20s.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Not to mention picking your nose, binge watching Law and Order reruns, throwing knives at the neighbor's cat, burning down day cares...During unemployment, many people have a lot of free time, which is more time for app swiping and stranger approaching.