Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Do you think a "silver fox" can still mack if he's broke?

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(I'm talking about macking his contemporaries, not young chicks, LOL.)

This video got me thinking:

 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't see why they wouldn't. I guess it depends on what you believe the main trigger is. I personally think its appearance. Every man has either been on the receiving end or seen a woman clearly smile at a guy or initiate some sort of contact to push things in that direction (date etc). Most of the time a woman won't be able to to determine anything for certain about your true lifestyle/net worth - she only knows she likes what she sees when you first appear on her radar.

What sealed it for was some of the traveling i've done. I realized (both directly and indirectly) women use it as an outlet to have fun.
 

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A broke dude has more serious obstacles to navigate(like getting a few bucks in his pocket + establishing a steady cash flow)than getting underneath some broad's thong. Making poonany #1 on your list of priorities when you're sleeping in a warehouse abandoned during Carter's presidency is tantamount to folks in The West Bank sweating who'll win this season of X Factor, and not giving much thought to avoiding being carpet bombed out of existence
 

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More and more younger women are becoming disillusioned with "men" their age.

I say men in quotes because many are more like immature teenagers that never plan on growing up.
On a more fundamental level, men aren't and WON'T be achieving any semblance of financial solidness until their 30+ nowadays, and this number will likely climb at all points in the future. What the video in The OP describes isn't remotely shocking, when one recognizes that most men don't really begin serious careers until their 3rd decade of life
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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More and more younger women are becoming disillusioned with "men" their age.
I say men in quotes because many are more like immature teenagers that never plan on growing up.
To say nothing of the demasculation of young men, much of which has been done intentionally IMO. Check out this video, where males of different ages are asked who their celebrity crush is. Once it gets to a certain age, an unusual number of guys list men as their crush, and/or come across as rather feminine:
 

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A broke dude has more serious obstacles to navigate(like getting a few bucks in his pocket + establishing a steady cash flow)than getting underneath some broad's thong. Making poonany #1 on your list of priorities when you're sleeping in a warehouse abandoned during Carter's presidency is tantamount to folks in The West Bank sweating who'll win this season of X Factor, and not giving much thought to avoiding being carpet bombed out of existence
Younger, broke dudes can get laid.

In 2011, Roosh wrote an article about being broke, unemployed, and living in his dad's basement at age 31 (nearly 32).


It's much more difficult to pull off that style of initial seduction after one's early to mid 30s.

Middle aged men and older approaching similarly aged women will have more difficulty with this.
 

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To say nothing of the demasculation of young men, much of which has been done intentionally IMO. Check out this video, where males of different ages are asked who their celebrity crush is. Once it gets to a certain age, an unusual number of guys list men as their crush, and/or come across as rather feminine:
To everything there is a season. For a period during The 70s and even early-esque 80s, androgyny was riding high, thanks to the effects of glam rock and hair metal. Things went to the opposite extreme afterwards, and roided out he-men like Arnie, Stallone, Van Damme, and Chuck Norris became hip. Something similar will happen again, sometime in the near future
 

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Younger, broke dudes can get laid
It can be done, same way The US government CAN send drones into most of the 3rd World and wipe out entire villages... Whether these are especially wise courses of action is what I question

Much as we all enjoy sex, a decent place to live, nutritious meals, and having enough cash to maintain both are pretty f-cking important also, are they not?
 

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Much as we all enjoy sex, a decent place to live, nutritious meals, and having enough cash to maintain both are pretty f-cking important also, are they not?
When you are an unemployed male and/or a broke male, you are still horny and you still desire sex. Sexual desire is not dependent upon employment status or net worth.

Sexual release is part of basic needs alongside of food, water, and shelter.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When you are an unemployed male and/or a broke male, you are still horny and you still desire sex. Sexual desire is not dependent upon employment status or net worth.

Sexual release is part of basic needs alongside of food, water, and shelter.
Not saying it's "wrong" to have those urges while broke. Just that prioritizing sating them over getting your financial situation squared away is moronic
 

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Not saying it's "wrong" to have those urges while broke. Just that prioritizing sating them over getting your financial situation squared away is moronic
There's only so much time that one can spend in job interviews if unemployed. During unemployment, many people have a lot of free time, which is more time for app swiping and stranger approaching.

If employed and broke, that's also a bad spot. @BPH has made that work as he has been able to seduce while not in a good employment situation and living with his parents in his late 20s/early 30s.
 

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There's only so much time that one can spend in job interviews if unemployed. During unemployment, many people have a lot of free time, which is more time for app swiping and stranger approaching.

If employed and broke, that's also a bad spot. @BPH has made that work as he has been able to seduce while not in a good employment situation and living with his parents in his late 20s/early 30s.
But I wouldn't call myself a silver fox. Most people think I'm in my early 20s.
 

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But I wouldn't call myself a silver fox. Most people think I'm in my early 20s.
That's true. At your age, you can get away with your circumstances. Someone in the silver fox age range (40+) can't get away with it.

Older guys can't be any of the following

-unemployed
-underemployed
-broke
 

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There are too many threads asking if a man can get women "IF" he's one of the following

- Poor
- Ugly
- Short
- Old
- Fat
- Skinny

Etc.

Guys, just work on yourself and talk to women. Don't wait til you're better. Work on it and talk to women.

Positing what-ifs is an incredible waste of mental headspace. Just no practical use for it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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During unemployment, many people have a lot of free time, which is more time for app swiping and stranger approaching.
Not to mention picking your nose, binge watching Law and Order reruns, throwing knives at the neighbor's cat, burning down day cares...
 
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