"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do you find Red Headed Women are consistently more difficult?

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I dunno, I’ve met plenty of brunettes that would make redheads seem easy to deal with. Blondes have always been nicest towards me though for whatever reason. Stay away from those multi-colored hair women though.
 

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Redheads are firey. My sister is a redhead and she was a pain in the ass for years until she mellowed out.

You do have to bear in mind that gingers get the thick end of the stick when it comes to being singled out in school/life to be the butt of jokes. It develops a thicker skin, but not all people can handle it and those are the ones that develop the nasty habits.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I just love redheads. I've never met one that I'd consider as a good LTR candidate though. Not because they're bossy, necessarily (although some are). I just think the attractive ones are too spoiled from attention, because true redheads are relatively rare.
 
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Gingers are usually smart, due to genetics. Scottish people were fvcking smart. At one point in time, at least.

So yeah, you'll catch more sh1t from a red head, but it's the kind of sh1t you want to catch...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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No. It’s an act. Like wearing a uniform or a suit. Posture is much better in a dress uniform.
 

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Nah,,,, all women are difficult, no matter what the hair color
 

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Advice from the old lady:

I don’t think being a redhead necessarily means more difficult. In my experience redheads are striking because they are unusual and therefore they stand out in the sense that people notice them.

Both my best girlfriends from university (who I remain close to) are pronounced redheads and both are gorgeous women.

One has gone largely gray now but in her youth had bright orange hair and dark brown eyes and porcelain skin. Dark brown eyes are particularly rare on a redhead and so it’s an especially unique combination. This woman is whip smart, sensible and laid back in addition to being beautiful. She’s been happily married since after grad school. I’d never consider her difficult and her husband (a high ranking military officer) adores her but leads that marriage without a doubt.

My other very close college girlfriend is a very pretty, very intelligent green eyed red head who married a pastor 7 years her junior. She too defers to her husband’s leadership and is happily married.

Both of these women had many options in the man department and both are in solid lasting marriages that are doing well many years and many kids in.

I’m myself more a strawberry blond, but I had decidedly red hair when I was born. It became more golden or straw colored after that but still has a reddish/coppery cast.

Typically in relationships men have found me sensible and easy going, but unwilling to put up with undue BS. I am not afraid of conflict. I am drawn to masculine men who are leaders. But I think that has more to do with who my father was and nothing to do with hair color.

It’s always interesting conjecture. In medicine we hear anecdotal stories that redheads require more anesthesia and/or more pain medication than other phenotypes but whether any legitimate clinical studies or peer reviewed research has examined the question I don’t know.

I think they get noticed more so people remember them.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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