Advice from the old lady:
I don’t think being a redhead necessarily means more difficult. In my experience redheads are striking because they are unusual and therefore they stand out in the sense that people notice them.
Both my best girlfriends from university (who I remain close to) are pronounced redheads and both are gorgeous women.
One has gone largely gray now but in her youth had bright orange hair and dark brown eyes and porcelain skin. Dark brown eyes are particularly rare on a redhead and so it’s an especially unique combination. This woman is whip smart, sensible and laid back in addition to being beautiful. She’s been happily married since after grad school. I’d never consider her difficult and her husband (a high ranking military officer) adores her but leads that marriage without a doubt.
My other very close college girlfriend is a very pretty, very intelligent green eyed red head who married a pastor 7 years her junior. She too defers to her husband’s leadership and is happily married.
Both of these women had many options in the man department and both are in solid lasting marriages that are doing well many years and many kids in.
I’m myself more a strawberry blond, but I had decidedly red hair when I was born. It became more golden or straw colored after that but still has a reddish/coppery cast.
Typically in relationships men have found me sensible and easy going, but unwilling to put up with undue BS. I am not afraid of conflict. I am drawn to masculine men who are leaders. But I think that has more to do with who my father was and nothing to do with hair color.
It’s always interesting conjecture. In medicine we hear anecdotal stories that redheads require more anesthesia and/or more pain medication than other phenotypes but whether any legitimate clinical studies or peer reviewed research has examined the question I don’t know.
I think they get noticed more so people remember them.