"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you find Red Headed Women are consistently more difficult?

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I dunno, I’ve met plenty of brunettes that would make redheads seem easy to deal with. Blondes have always been nicest towards me though for whatever reason. Stay away from those multi-colored hair women though.
 

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Redheads are firey. My sister is a redhead and she was a pain in the ass for years until she mellowed out.

You do have to bear in mind that gingers get the thick end of the stick when it comes to being singled out in school/life to be the butt of jokes. It develops a thicker skin, but not all people can handle it and those are the ones that develop the nasty habits.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I just love redheads. I've never met one that I'd consider as a good LTR candidate though. Not because they're bossy, necessarily (although some are). I just think the attractive ones are too spoiled from attention, because true redheads are relatively rare.
 
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Gingers are usually smart, due to genetics. Scottish people were fvcking smart. At one point in time, at least.

So yeah, you'll catch more sh1t from a red head, but it's the kind of sh1t you want to catch...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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No. It’s an act. Like wearing a uniform or a suit. Posture is much better in a dress uniform.
 

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Nah,,,, all women are difficult, no matter what the hair color
 

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Advice from the old lady:

I don’t think being a redhead necessarily means more difficult. In my experience redheads are striking because they are unusual and therefore they stand out in the sense that people notice them.

Both my best girlfriends from university (who I remain close to) are pronounced redheads and both are gorgeous women.

One has gone largely gray now but in her youth had bright orange hair and dark brown eyes and porcelain skin. Dark brown eyes are particularly rare on a redhead and so it’s an especially unique combination. This woman is whip smart, sensible and laid back in addition to being beautiful. She’s been happily married since after grad school. I’d never consider her difficult and her husband (a high ranking military officer) adores her but leads that marriage without a doubt.

My other very close college girlfriend is a very pretty, very intelligent green eyed red head who married a pastor 7 years her junior. She too defers to her husband’s leadership and is happily married.

Both of these women had many options in the man department and both are in solid lasting marriages that are doing well many years and many kids in.

I’m myself more a strawberry blond, but I had decidedly red hair when I was born. It became more golden or straw colored after that but still has a reddish/coppery cast.

Typically in relationships men have found me sensible and easy going, but unwilling to put up with undue BS. I am not afraid of conflict. I am drawn to masculine men who are leaders. But I think that has more to do with who my father was and nothing to do with hair color.

It’s always interesting conjecture. In medicine we hear anecdotal stories that redheads require more anesthesia and/or more pain medication than other phenotypes but whether any legitimate clinical studies or peer reviewed research has examined the question I don’t know.

I think they get noticed more so people remember them.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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