SeymourCake
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Have you ever known women who lied about their virginity?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Nah, bro. But I don't really hang out with virgins.SeymourCake said:Have you ever known women who lied about their virginity?
why?Iceberg said:Nah, bro. But I don't really hang out with virgins.
Just the thought of someone in my age group being a virgin creeps me out.
Pretty much.Upside said:Girl says to you "I lost it at 20 and have only been with 3 guys"
The honest answer is -4 to age and +10 on the guy count, usually.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It just seems abnormal to me. Sex is a very normal and natural thing. Food, water, sleep, sex. How could an attractive and emotionally-healthy person go without sex deep into their 20's and early 30's?Eternal_water said:why?
I can understand if it's a guy. Some guys really do struggle to get laid.Iceberg said:It just seems abnormal to me. Sex is a very normal and natural thing. Food, water, sleep, sex. How could an attractive and emotionally-healthy person go without sex deep into their 20's and early 30's?
I can understand if there are religious reasons. But otherwise, it just seems odd to me.
You are totally right, but are assuming everyone has the same game you do. Food is a business, water is a business, sleep is solo act. Sex requires consent within 2 parties, it's not like buying a chocolate bar at 7-11. It's part of a game and how well you play.Iceberg said:It just seems abnormal to me. Sex is a very normal and natural thing. Food, water, sleep, sex. How could an attractive and emotionally-healthy person go without sex deep into their 20's and early 30's?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
in a lot of countries you can buy sex tooYou are totally right, but are assuming everyone has the same game you do. Food is a business, water is a business, sleep is solo act. Sex requires consent within 2 parties, it's not like buying a chocolate bar at 7-11. It's part of a game and how well you play.
But yeah, virgin in 30s, brutal.