Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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do women judge a man’s desirability by how well he reads and respond to flirting?

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Even tho you guys know I'm a bit on the autistm spectrum, it's something I came to understand lately.

I saw how it works IRL, and so I've asked myself "how does a woman gauge how desired, desirable, and "high-value" a man is..how does she determine that a man is experienced, attracts women, and is actually getting laid?

As far as I can tell, I thought, she based that on how he responds to her flirting.

Let’s look at some examples.
If a woman flirts with a man, it can play out in two ways:

1) He’s "too autistic", like me, and misses even the most obvious signals.
He doesn’t respond to the flirtation, or rather, it falls flat because he takes everything literally.
She doesn’t feel "understood" because he answers the literal question she asked, rather than the underlying intent.
At the same time, this shows her that he’s a serious guy who doesn’t like to play games. He’s focused on his life and on being authentic.
Usually, these are guys like me, mature men who have their lives together and are successful, but who consistently miss these kinds of social cues.
But, at this point, she feel that if this man cannot read women flirting, there must be something wrong with him, and so, he has low value, even tho he is attractive and own his sh1t togheter.(This happened to anyone in life, and we also have an entire 3d for it, so this might not be an "autistic man only issue" https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/most-obvious-come-on-that-was-missed.13316/ )

2) He responds well to the flirtation. She feels understood because he realizes she’s "playing", he’s able to read between the lines of her "questions" and grasp her true intentions.
In that moment, he’s managed to step outside the framework of "real life" to engage with whatever playful nonsense she’s brought up.
She feels a greater sense of rapport with a man like this.
Consequently, a woman will assume that, even if he’s less physically attractive, and he doesn't own his sh1t, this man is the one who’s sleeping with more women, has higher value, and makes her "feel better", "understood".

There have even been extreme instances of "Case 1."
In such cases, rather than attempting to flirt, the woman might declare her feelings outright or ask the man out on a date. If you’re curious, you can find examples online: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1d2ylpi
In "Case 1," the woman might feel rejected, or perhaps simply conclude that the situation is too embarrassing, or that the man lacks the self-confidence to be direct and negate her.

In "Case 2," however, if she is negated, she perceives the man as having the guts to say things to her face.

It would be awesome to find out what you guys found out to be true in your experince
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Also, think about it.

Which of the two men will most likely have problems in LTRs when women are having emotional problems, because they don't feel "listened to," and thus resentment builds?
And which of the two guys would be willing to eat more sh1t and be more disrespected by her?

For example, I would expect to be the man 1 to whom she is communicating something with intent, but not being able to understand what she wants unless she actually verbalizes it. However, I can't imagine being disrespected or eating her sh1t, which Man 2 might do, because he finds it fun and it's part of his game, while he could probably understand what is going on
 
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