"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Do men who are in reasonable shape feel like there aren't enough skinny/slim/healthy-weight women?

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Firstly, I don't mean hot model women or Stacey's (those aren't any higher than 4% of the female populace) , i just mean regular OK/average maybe kinda cute women. I even include slim/skinny women with a below average face.

And does that kind of lead to men in reasonable shape being...

A. Being with women who aren't their ideal size? /dating down.
B. Missing out, going monk.
C. PassPort bro to healthier countries to get your Looksmatch/body comp match (for a man with 15% bodyfat this means a woman with 21% bodyfat).
D. Be content with Wankshack HQ/porn/sex dolls/fleshlights etc.

My thread from the other day kinda proves a point. None so far has voted for fat+, which is Number 5 upwards. Number 4 kinda looking sturdy/thick.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The ones that do exist get completely spammed by approaches, or gross staring.

So they go to venues that have strong guardrails. £100+/head restaurants, expensive music festivals etc. This works until the swarming men start to spam those places too.

I occasionally get pictures reels of local nightclubs crop up on my social media and vast majority of birds just look like munters. Obese + tattooed (fattooed) but trying to put lipstick on a pig with streaky fake tan, weird eyelashes and eyebrows, etc. Welcome to YooKay. (Tbf though the blokes in these places look awful too).
 

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The ones that do exist get completely spammed by approaches, or gross staring.

So they go to venues that have strong guardrails. £100+/head restaurants, expensive music festivals etc. This works until the swarming men start to spam those places too.

I occasionally get pictures reels of local nightclubs crop up on my social media and vast majority of birds just look like munters. Obese + tattooed (fattooed) but trying to put lipstick on a pig with streaky fake tan, weird eyelashes and eyebrows, etc. Welcome to YooKay. (Tbf though the blokes in these places look awful too).
So now the only chance to date a woman who isn't morbidly obese is to be a top 1% dude?

What in the hell is going on here lately?

I mean, I've dated dozens of women that were in good shape and I'm nowhere near probably even top 20% in looks.

People's belief systems are completely out of whack with reality it seems in increasingly insane ways.
 
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So now the only chance to date a woman who isn't morbidly obese is to be a top 1% dude?
What in the hell is going on here lately?
Overweight and/or obese women.

That's what guys like Michael Sartain, Rolo Tomassi, Fresh&Fit and co-hosts are saying, yes. Probably not a top 1% Man but you need to be a top 5% Man to date a slim average or healthy weight average women. Basically, a female 5-6 can get a Male 8-9 on dating apps, social media, night venues with strong guard rails and expensive costs (like @UK manc says).

A 25% to 30% man (which is a slim/healthy weight average man in USA/UK) is left with the fat munter women.
 

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Overweight and/or obese women.

That's what guys like Michael Sartain, Rolo Tomassi, Fresh&Fit and co-hosts are saying, yes. Probably not a top 1% Man but you need to be a top 5% Man to date a slim average or healthy weight average women. Basically, a female 5-6 can get a Male 8-9 on dating apps, social media, night venues with strong guard rails and expensive costs (like @UK manc says).

A 25% to 30% man (which is a slim/healthy weight average man in USA/UK) is left with the fat munter women.
Complete and utter bullsh!t.

If you believe that, you have very little experience with dating or women in general.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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And does that kind of lead to men in reasonable shape being...

A. Being with women who aren't their ideal size? /dating down.
B. Missing out, going monk.
C. PassPort bro to healthier countries to get your Looksmatch/body comp match (for a man with 15% bodyfat this means a woman with 21% bodyfat).
D. Be content with Wankshack HQ/porn/sex dolls/fleshlights etc.
C
 

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The ones that do exist get completely spammed by approaches, or gross staring.

So they go to venues that have strong guardrails. £100+/head restaurants, expensive music festivals etc. This works until the swarming men start to spam those places too.

I occasionally get pictures reels of local nightclubs crop up on my social media and vast majority of birds just look like munters. Obese + tattooed (fattooed) but trying to put lipstick on a pig with streaky fake tan, weird eyelashes and eyebrows, etc. Welcome to YooKay. (Tbf though the blokes in these places look awful too).
I love how the Brits call women "birds". :)
 
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