"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Do I need to relax my standards on women's body?

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I'm only really attracted to women who are both fit and curvy - you guys know the type I am talking about - the instagram models with thick muscular legs and fat asses.




the problem is

1)I only see those women consistently at gyms, where an approach is very difficult because they're all wearing headphones

2)I can find them on dating sites but then, I'm basically looking for attractive 25 year olds with no kids/nice personality/decent job/classy and smart who also have great bodies on dating sites...every man on the planet wants that. How am I gonna stand out among the 848484448484844884 men messaging her? I'm only about a 7 in pics. Im sure there will be tons of 10/10 males messaging that

3)Outside of gyms and online dating, where else am I gonna find what I want?

so then the question becomes, do I settle for a very cute girl with great personality but with average body and try to get her in fantastic shape? I see tons of italian and Latin girls (that's my type, I love dark features) who would look fantastic after training properly for 9 months. They just dunno what the hell they're doing in the gym. Would most women be open to adopting my lifestyle?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It's hard to meet them in the gym. If you do yoga though you will socialize for a small bit just before and just after the class lets out. I wouldn't try to meet anyone in the main workout area's get your work done, no one wants to be interrupted.
 

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It's hard to meet them in the gym. If you do yoga though you will socialize for a small bit just before and just after the class lets out. I wouldn't try to meet anyone in the main workout area's get your work done, no one wants to be interrupted.
you know what, people say that, but I've made plenty of friends even talking to people who are wearing their headphones. i'll just make a casual comment about surroundings and go from there. I'm very likeable instantly so that probably helps.

but it's much much easier making male friends than getting women to go out with you on a date
 

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you know what, people say that, but I've made plenty of friends even talking to people who are wearing their headphones. i'll just make a casual comment about surroundings and go from there. I'm very likeable instantly so that probably helps.

but it's much much easier making male friends than getting women to go out with you on a date
In yoga there is a socializing component of standing in line before and after that gets you close to the people in the room. So you will notice people who come for that same class and may be some opportunity to exchange numbers. A good hookup in the gym is if they have a juice or smoothie bar in the gym, mention in your convo your going to grab you one. Maybe they might join you.

And women with bodies like that are a dime a dozen too. For the americans it will be former ex high school and collegiate atheletes. There are plenty of them, but they are usually tight to a social circle and follow the pecking order.

From the info I have now, I think we need to first worry about being "players" before even worrying about a relationship. Women are just so used to it. And no reason to want a relationship unless she adds to you greatly. A good looking and sex is not enough. She's gotta add to you and consistently support and have your back.
 

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In yoga there is a socializing component of standing in line before and after that gets you close to the people in the room. So you will notice people who come for that same class and may be some opportunity to exchange numbers. A good hookup in the gym is if they have a juice or smoothie bar in the gym, mention in your convo your going to grab you one. Maybe they might join you.

And women with bodies like that are a dime a dozen too. For the americans it will be former ex high school and collegiate atheletes. There are plenty of them, but they are usually tight to a social circle and follow the pecking order.

From the info I have now, I think we need to first worry about being "players" before even worrying about a relationship. Women are just so used to it. And no reason to want a relationship unless she adds to you greatly. A good looking and sex is not enough. She's gotta add to you and consistently support and have your back.
I'm not getting into a relationship with anybody unless they're genuinely a fantastic person through and through

and women with bodies like that are nowhere near dime a dozen, what are you smoking bro? 90% of women nowadays are either fat or frumpy/avg bodies
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm not getting into a relationship with anybody unless they're genuinely a fantastic person through and through

and women with bodies like that are nowhere near dime a dozen, what are you smoking bro? 90% of women nowadays are either fat or frumpy/avg bodies
Depends upon where you look . If you look around gym or dance classes a lot of the ladies will be built. Check out title boxing too, they have like 60-80% females in many of the classes. I said yoga as well, yoga is mostly females.
 

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Depends upon where you look . If you look around gym or dance classes a lot of the ladies will be built. Check out title boxing too, they have like 60-80% females in many of the classes. I said yoga as well, yoga is mostly females.
still very small percentage of general population
 

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Becareful with yoga classes. You have hot women in really tight clothes, but you also have large hippos in those tights too. The good with the bad...
 

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you guys need to come to Finland
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm only really attracted to women who are both fit and curvy - you guys know the type I am talking about - the instagram models with thick muscular legs and fat asses.




the problem is

1)I only see those women consistently at gyms, where an approach is very difficult because they're all wearing headphones

2)I can find them on dating sites but then, I'm basically looking for attractive 25 year olds with no kids/nice personality/decent job/classy and smart who also have great bodies on dating sites...every man on the planet wants that. How am I gonna stand out among the 848484448484844884 men messaging her? I'm only about a 7 in pics. Im sure there will be tons of 10/10 males messaging that

3)Outside of gyms and online dating, where else am I gonna find what I want?

so then the question becomes, do I settle for a very cute girl with great personality but with average body and try to get her in fantastic shape? I see tons of italian and Latin girls (that's my type, I love dark features) who would look fantastic after training properly for 9 months. They just dunno what the hell they're doing in the gym. Would most women be open to adopting my lifestyle?
Hell No. You maintain your standards. You go for the nice abs, big tits, and preferably with a belly ring / tramp stamp (I like em kinda slutty but trying to be good). If you ugly as hell, then you need to work on getting ripped and/or getting rich.
 

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Hell No. You maintain your standards. You go for the nice abs, big tits, and preferably with a belly ring / tramp stamp (I like em kinda slutty but trying to be good). If you ugly as hell, then you need to work on getting ripped and/or getting rich.
did you read the thread bro?

I'm good looking, ripped and rich...but I'm only about a 7/10 in the face which makes it difficult to do online dating
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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my anaconda dont want none... unless its got buns, hun
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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