"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Do I need to relax my standards on women's body?

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I'm only really attracted to women who are both fit and curvy - you guys know the type I am talking about - the instagram models with thick muscular legs and fat asses.




the problem is

1)I only see those women consistently at gyms, where an approach is very difficult because they're all wearing headphones

2)I can find them on dating sites but then, I'm basically looking for attractive 25 year olds with no kids/nice personality/decent job/classy and smart who also have great bodies on dating sites...every man on the planet wants that. How am I gonna stand out among the 848484448484844884 men messaging her? I'm only about a 7 in pics. Im sure there will be tons of 10/10 males messaging that

3)Outside of gyms and online dating, where else am I gonna find what I want?

so then the question becomes, do I settle for a very cute girl with great personality but with average body and try to get her in fantastic shape? I see tons of italian and Latin girls (that's my type, I love dark features) who would look fantastic after training properly for 9 months. They just dunno what the hell they're doing in the gym. Would most women be open to adopting my lifestyle?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It's hard to meet them in the gym. If you do yoga though you will socialize for a small bit just before and just after the class lets out. I wouldn't try to meet anyone in the main workout area's get your work done, no one wants to be interrupted.
 

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It's hard to meet them in the gym. If you do yoga though you will socialize for a small bit just before and just after the class lets out. I wouldn't try to meet anyone in the main workout area's get your work done, no one wants to be interrupted.
you know what, people say that, but I've made plenty of friends even talking to people who are wearing their headphones. i'll just make a casual comment about surroundings and go from there. I'm very likeable instantly so that probably helps.

but it's much much easier making male friends than getting women to go out with you on a date
 

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you know what, people say that, but I've made plenty of friends even talking to people who are wearing their headphones. i'll just make a casual comment about surroundings and go from there. I'm very likeable instantly so that probably helps.

but it's much much easier making male friends than getting women to go out with you on a date
In yoga there is a socializing component of standing in line before and after that gets you close to the people in the room. So you will notice people who come for that same class and may be some opportunity to exchange numbers. A good hookup in the gym is if they have a juice or smoothie bar in the gym, mention in your convo your going to grab you one. Maybe they might join you.

And women with bodies like that are a dime a dozen too. For the americans it will be former ex high school and collegiate atheletes. There are plenty of them, but they are usually tight to a social circle and follow the pecking order.

From the info I have now, I think we need to first worry about being "players" before even worrying about a relationship. Women are just so used to it. And no reason to want a relationship unless she adds to you greatly. A good looking and sex is not enough. She's gotta add to you and consistently support and have your back.
 

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In yoga there is a socializing component of standing in line before and after that gets you close to the people in the room. So you will notice people who come for that same class and may be some opportunity to exchange numbers. A good hookup in the gym is if they have a juice or smoothie bar in the gym, mention in your convo your going to grab you one. Maybe they might join you.

And women with bodies like that are a dime a dozen too. For the americans it will be former ex high school and collegiate atheletes. There are plenty of them, but they are usually tight to a social circle and follow the pecking order.

From the info I have now, I think we need to first worry about being "players" before even worrying about a relationship. Women are just so used to it. And no reason to want a relationship unless she adds to you greatly. A good looking and sex is not enough. She's gotta add to you and consistently support and have your back.
I'm not getting into a relationship with anybody unless they're genuinely a fantastic person through and through

and women with bodies like that are nowhere near dime a dozen, what are you smoking bro? 90% of women nowadays are either fat or frumpy/avg bodies
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm not getting into a relationship with anybody unless they're genuinely a fantastic person through and through

and women with bodies like that are nowhere near dime a dozen, what are you smoking bro? 90% of women nowadays are either fat or frumpy/avg bodies
Depends upon where you look . If you look around gym or dance classes a lot of the ladies will be built. Check out title boxing too, they have like 60-80% females in many of the classes. I said yoga as well, yoga is mostly females.
 

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Depends upon where you look . If you look around gym or dance classes a lot of the ladies will be built. Check out title boxing too, they have like 60-80% females in many of the classes. I said yoga as well, yoga is mostly females.
still very small percentage of general population
 

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Becareful with yoga classes. You have hot women in really tight clothes, but you also have large hippos in those tights too. The good with the bad...
 

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you guys need to come to Finland
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm only really attracted to women who are both fit and curvy - you guys know the type I am talking about - the instagram models with thick muscular legs and fat asses.




the problem is

1)I only see those women consistently at gyms, where an approach is very difficult because they're all wearing headphones

2)I can find them on dating sites but then, I'm basically looking for attractive 25 year olds with no kids/nice personality/decent job/classy and smart who also have great bodies on dating sites...every man on the planet wants that. How am I gonna stand out among the 848484448484844884 men messaging her? I'm only about a 7 in pics. Im sure there will be tons of 10/10 males messaging that

3)Outside of gyms and online dating, where else am I gonna find what I want?

so then the question becomes, do I settle for a very cute girl with great personality but with average body and try to get her in fantastic shape? I see tons of italian and Latin girls (that's my type, I love dark features) who would look fantastic after training properly for 9 months. They just dunno what the hell they're doing in the gym. Would most women be open to adopting my lifestyle?
Hell No. You maintain your standards. You go for the nice abs, big tits, and preferably with a belly ring / tramp stamp (I like em kinda slutty but trying to be good). If you ugly as hell, then you need to work on getting ripped and/or getting rich.
 

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Hell No. You maintain your standards. You go for the nice abs, big tits, and preferably with a belly ring / tramp stamp (I like em kinda slutty but trying to be good). If you ugly as hell, then you need to work on getting ripped and/or getting rich.
did you read the thread bro?

I'm good looking, ripped and rich...but I'm only about a 7/10 in the face which makes it difficult to do online dating
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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my anaconda dont want none... unless its got buns, hun
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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