"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Do I need to lift with a spotter to get huge?

garruk

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so i understand all the basics of building muscle but lately (because its summer) i've been going to the gym by myself. I still lift heavy but as I dont go with a friend I generally dont lift AS heavy as I used to.

In any case, I'm wondering if you need to lift with a spotter to really pack on pounds.

OR can I just lift as I have (3 sets of 7) and just EAT.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You might not need a spotter. Do you have a squat/power rack in the gym?
 

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Yes, to get HUGE you need to bench press HEAVY while your spotter mate does a bent over row - on the same bar.
 
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Just ask a stranger to spot you. Most people will be more than happy to help out.


Edit - I haven't worked out with a spot in years. It's quite unnecessary - just learn what you're capable of.
 
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Jitterbug said:
Yes, to get HUGE you need to bench press HEAVY while your spotter mate does a bent over row - on the same bar.

Sarcasm?
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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garruk

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Jitterbug said:
Yes, to get HUGE you need to bench press HEAVY while your spotter mate does a bent over row - on the same bar.

seriously?

i pretty much know my limits and what im able to bench and such but i tend to go a little under my max for fear killing myself. lol.
 
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garruk said:
i tend to go a little under my max for fear killing myself. lol.
This is exactly what I do and I've never had trouble getting stronger. You don't have to go until failure to get big.
 
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