"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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penkitten

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i liked the old java chat, i dont like the irc thing .

bring back the java, we can all use our registered names...
 

Hot Ice

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Originally posted by penkitten
bring back the java, we can all use our registered names...
It would be cool, but damn it would be flooded too!

"do you think this girl likes me if she stares me at school hallway?"
"Should I wear black or brown shoes for my first date?"
"Is it ok to tell her I love her? We've been dating for two weeks."
"What if her boyfriend is around?"
"I'm hopeless, I'm never gonna be any good."
"My girlfriend kicked my ass. How do I continue our relationship?"
".. But my mom said I should be nice to everybody!"
"Is it ok to give her flowers on second date?"
"I DON'T have oneitis for her! but I still can't help thinking her all the time and making loveletters to her."
"My dog puked in her shoe, does that mean she hates me now??"
 

Sato21m

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Originally posted by penkitten
i liked the old java chat, i dont like the irc thing .

bring back the java, we can all use our registered names...
That's a great idea
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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how about keep a cap on the size each room on the chat client can get. and if you want to speak to some one specificly well you can speak to them seaprtly like at present.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Hot Ice

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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
how about keep a cap on the size each room on the chat client can get. and if you want to speak to some one specificly well you can speak to them seaprtly like at present.
It would be all good if someone did that...

AND
Allen would bring it back...
I remember I quite recently requested about adverticing our chatroom. I got a negative answer.
So I don't think the java chat is coming back even it's a good idea.
 
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