Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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penkitten

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i liked the old java chat, i dont like the irc thing .

bring back the java, we can all use our registered names...
 

Hot Ice

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Originally posted by penkitten
bring back the java, we can all use our registered names...
It would be cool, but damn it would be flooded too!

"do you think this girl likes me if she stares me at school hallway?"
"Should I wear black or brown shoes for my first date?"
"Is it ok to tell her I love her? We've been dating for two weeks."
"What if her boyfriend is around?"
"I'm hopeless, I'm never gonna be any good."
"My girlfriend kicked my ass. How do I continue our relationship?"
".. But my mom said I should be nice to everybody!"
"Is it ok to give her flowers on second date?"
"I DON'T have oneitis for her! but I still can't help thinking her all the time and making loveletters to her."
"My dog puked in her shoe, does that mean she hates me now??"
 

Sato21m

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Originally posted by penkitten
i liked the old java chat, i dont like the irc thing .

bring back the java, we can all use our registered names...
That's a great idea
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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how about keep a cap on the size each room on the chat client can get. and if you want to speak to some one specificly well you can speak to them seaprtly like at present.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hot Ice

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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
how about keep a cap on the size each room on the chat client can get. and if you want to speak to some one specificly well you can speak to them seaprtly like at present.
It would be all good if someone did that...

AND
Allen would bring it back...
I remember I quite recently requested about adverticing our chatroom. I got a negative answer.
So I don't think the java chat is coming back even it's a good idea.
 
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