“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
squat 115 5x5
bench 85,85,80,80... this was a **** attempt at 85kg...
other than that - im about ten kgs off where i wanted to be on deads, squats, and bench (almost) by the end of the program... still got bout 4 weeks left..
dips 3x8
some other crap - i was bored and depresed from bench so did some calf raises and dumbell stuff.
terrible - squat 125kg
1x5
1, fail.
1x5
105kg
1x5
bench
85,85,80,80 (1x5)
80,80,80,80,fail... some guy had to rescue me and pull it off my chest... embarassing
time to do massive deloads on squat and bench and focus on deadlift for a while. i got one more month at this gym, time to bite the bullet and get some fractional plates.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
bench 75 5x5
one leg squats w/ 10kg in both hands, 5x5 each leg
95 kg deads 3x5
9/2
squat 110kg 5x5
stiffleg deads 2x5 60kg
close-grip bench 3x8 w/ 60kg
some other bench stuff, 21s 1x2 w 80kg
2-3 min skipping
Goals for next session on 11/2
deads 105kg
squat 115kg
13/2
squat 120kg
bench 80kg
next week
squat 125
deads 110kg
and
bench 82.5kg
and ill be pretty satisfied with the 12 weeks
Anyway, today was
Squat 115kg 5x5
Deads 105kg 1x5
Decline Bench 60kg 3x8
Farmer's walk w/15kg x 2 (50m up and down stairs)
Chinups 6,4,4.
Diet today
3 eggs w/ multigrain bread and cheese
4 pieces of fruit (morning / midday)
2 protein shakes (late morning and early afternoon)
Chicken Roll (lunch)
200-250g Steak (afternoon)
Now
Chinese food (maybe mongolian lamb and rice) (dinner)
Hopefully some cottage cheese after.
If only I begin to eat like this on my off days, I would get some serious mass gain I think. Will weigh myself in 10 days or so and see if there's any increase since the beginning of the program.
cheers.
b.
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
How many scoops are your protein shakes? What kind of fruit?
You are on the right road, but I'd like to see you do another shake with 3-4 raw eggs in each shake. Add the one for breakfast and skip the bread and cheese and add like 2 bananas or apples. You can even add 1/2 cup oatmeal to that shake too with the fruit and 2 tbsp of natural peanut butter. Works great with chocolate whey heh.
Serious mass gain takes time, especially with the karate you do. Don't expect huge weight gains. Weigh yourself like once a month. i would say 2-4lbs a month is good. It takes time to build a body. I would say a better source of telling you if your growing or not is by measuring tape. Post your stats for arms, waist, chest, and thighs to see if your growing. Also clothes are a great indicator.
Keep it up!
I'm running out of protein atm, so the shakes are limited to 1-2 scoops, however, getting some good whey soon. The fruit is usually bananna, apple or peach (atm). I've done the oatmeal in the shakes,that's good, but how do you put the p.b. in a shake without swallowing massive lumps of it?
I'll be doing a lot less karate and more lifting this year, and have stopped weighing myself obsessively. I'm ready for the long haul, it was good when i put a shirt on the other day, it was a bit tighter than i remembered! Also, how do you measure with the tape? middle of the muscle, unflexed i'm guessing?
cheers for the advice/encouragement man
disp.
Squat 120kg 5x5
Bench 77.5kg 3x5
Farmers walk
dumbell press 40kg
calf raises 40kg
Chinup holds 2x30secs
lots of skipping
More importantly, diet (ran out of eggs AND protein today, so bear with me)
protein shake w/ oats and an egg
sandwhich ham/avocado/cheese (bought for me, thought it was an ok breaky)
protein shake w/ egg
apple, half capsicum
tuna sandwhich
chicken breast, salad
bananna
half bowl of pasta
Im still working on it. More tips welcome
b.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
Yeah, you could do it like thisdispatch said:
Meal 1 - 3 scoops whey + 3 Raw Eggs + 1/2 oatmeal + banana and 2 tbsp of natty peanutbutter
Meal 2- 1/2 steak or ground beef stirfry + salad with carb free dressing + 6 oz brown rice or one or two potatoes
Meal 3- 3 scoops whey + 4 Raw Eggs
Meal 4- 1/2 steak or ground beef stirfry + salad with carb free dressing
Meal 5- 3 scoops whey + 4 Raw Eggs + 2 tbsp of olive oil + 6 Fish Oil pills
Meal 6- Chicken Or Tuna + 6 Fish Oil pills
preworkout - 6 oz rice or 2 bananas
Post workout - 3 scoops whey
PP workout shake - 1 scoop of Carbogain for fast carbs (get it from Amazon)
Read all posts in the Vault...plenty of great advice and the guys almost always answered all the questions posted
I mean it depends on how active you are, the more active you are the more carbs you need. If you aren't extremely active watch the carbs as to avoid fat gain as much as possible
It's easy for peanut butter to go in a shake...blender!
The great thing about the shakes is that you can put it in a jug with ice and bring it where ever you want and sip it till its gone and boom..that's two meals while your out.
Right on Stallion. This will be my goal/base diet for the future.I-tallionStallion said:Yeah, you could do it like this
Meal 1 - 3 scoops whey + 3 Raw Eggs + 1/2 oatmeal + banana and 2 tbsp of natty peanutbutter
Meal 2- 1/2 steak or ground beef stirfry + salad with carb free dressing + 6 oz brown rice or one or two potatoes
Meal 3- 3 scoops whey + 4 Raw Eggs
Meal 4- 1/2 steak or ground beef stirfry + salad with carb free dressing
Meal 5- 3 scoops whey + 4 Raw Eggs + 2 tbsp of olive oil + 6 Fish Oil pills
Meal 6- Chicken Or Tuna + 6 Fish Oil pills
preworkout - 6 oz rice or 2 bananas
Post workout - 3 scoops whey
PP workout shake - 1 scoop of Carbogain for fast carbs (get it from Amazon)
Read all posts in the Vault...plenty of great advice and the guys almost always answered all the questions posted
I mean it depends on how active you are, the more active you are the more carbs you need. If you aren't extremely active watch the carbs as to avoid fat gain as much as possible
It's easy for peanut butter to go in a shake...blender!
The great thing about the shakes is that you can put it in a jug with ice and bring it where ever you want and sip it till its gone and boom..that's two meals while your out.
In the meantime while I get the whey etc, I am in the last week of my stronglifts program.
I had a good workout yesterday
Squat 125kg - 3x3.
This was my goal weight for squats. I know it isn't 5x5 but it's something.
Deadlift 110kg - 1x5.
I exceeded my expectations in deadlifting, probably because they were incredibly low. I am really beginning to like this exercise, but am having trouble gripping this weight. I have not yet needed to switch to one hand reverse grip, but want to get a strong grip anyway. I have been doing farmer's walks in the hope of improving it. Any other ideas?
Rows - 40kg 3x5
Since my bench has been practically going backwards, I am looking at improving on the assistance exercises, so starting rows, close grip bench, etc.
Chins 3x3 (with 5 extra kgs)
Not much to say here except I should've used more weight.
I will have probably have one more crack at benching 80kg 5x5, and squatting 125kg 5x5, then I'll be done with the program and start evaluating overall progress, where I'm at/ other programs etc.
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
Workout today -
70kg 3x5 front squats. these are kinda cool but hard to hold.
55kg rows 3x5, hoping these assistance exercises help for bench.
3x3 80kg bench - these low reps are just embarrasing, I'm pretty devoed about bench in general, perhaps I need a break from it.
3x8 20kg calf raises.
3x5 chinups w/ 10kg
3x5 dips w/10kg
some situps.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Today was terrible - gym was packed.. got almost nothing done
Bench 3x8 65kg
rowing 2min
calf raises 25kg 3x5
OH Dumbell seated press, 35kg (17.5 each)
FINALLY got on the single squat rack at my gym (this gym did like a million sets of 170kg (!) ... anyone here? lol)
2x3 120kg... 1, 1, fail.... ouch
Diet
protein shake (scoop and a half) + bannana + 3 eggs
post workout
shake + bananna + egg + salad + tuna
corn beef roll + apple
dinner.
60kg Front Squats 3x3
115kg Deadlifts 1x5, single 125kg deadlift (PR)
3,4,5 bench 75kg
3x8 calf raises w/40kg (PR)
chins + 10kg (5)
2x3 chins w/ 20kgs
Diet
Shake + small steak + spinach
Bananna + shake + small steak
salad + tuna + fruit
etc.
Front squat 3x3 60kg, mostly for warmup
deadlift 1x5 120kg, PR, may have sacrificed form a little, won't go too much higher for now.
bench close grip 3x5 70kg
calf raise 3x8 50kg
few pullups w/ 20kg on
pretty happy with that one.
19/3
squat 122.5kg PR 5x5
cloe grip bench 70kg... 5,5,2..fail.
pull-ups 3x8
calf raise did a couple then cramped
23/3
deadlift 122.5 PR - my deadlift finally caught my squat.
close grip bench 3x5 70kg
chin-ups 2x8,6
calf raise 3x8 35kg.
nice workout and diet today
Workout
125kg squats PR 5x5 - although it felt good to get these - I think im too high in my squats at this weight. I want to drop back a little now on deadlift and squat (maybe after i nail 125kg dead next session - focus on lower squats and faster deadlifts (less break between reps), and get cracking on bench)
75kg alternating bench and close grip bench 5x5
calf raise 40.45.55kg 3x8
chins 3x5 + 10kg
Diet
2 pieces of fruit + protein shake
meat/salad roll
2 pieces of fruit
Egg/Tuna/Salad
Bannana
Protein Shake
Chicken Sub
4 eggs w/ham
Slowly but surely...
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.