You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yeah, you could do it like thisdispatch said:Hey Stallion, i was actually hoping you'd respond to this, I've gone back to look at the getting started diet - I'm hearing you on the three shakes w/ more eggs. I'm happy to convert cooked eggs to raw aswell, less mess to clean up anyway. so you recommend 10 - 12 eggs a day?
I'm running out of protein atm, so the shakes are limited to 1-2 scoops, however, getting some good whey soon. The fruit is usually bananna, apple or peach (atm). I've done the oatmeal in the shakes,that's good, but how do you put the p.b. in a shake without swallowing massive lumps of it?
I'll be doing a lot less karate and more lifting this year, and have stopped weighing myself obsessively. I'm ready for the long haul, it was good when i put a shirt on the other day, it was a bit tighter than i remembered! Also, how do you measure with the tape? middle of the muscle, unflexed i'm guessing?
cheers for the advice/encouragement man
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Right on Stallion. This will be my goal/base diet for the future.I-tallionStallion said:Yeah, you could do it like this
Meal 1 - 3 scoops whey + 3 Raw Eggs + 1/2 oatmeal + banana and 2 tbsp of natty peanutbutter
Meal 2- 1/2 steak or ground beef stirfry + salad with carb free dressing + 6 oz brown rice or one or two potatoes
Meal 3- 3 scoops whey + 4 Raw Eggs
Meal 4- 1/2 steak or ground beef stirfry + salad with carb free dressing
Meal 5- 3 scoops whey + 4 Raw Eggs + 2 tbsp of olive oil + 6 Fish Oil pills
Meal 6- Chicken Or Tuna + 6 Fish Oil pills
preworkout - 6 oz rice or 2 bananas
Post workout - 3 scoops whey
PP workout shake - 1 scoop of Carbogain for fast carbs (get it from Amazon)
Read all posts in the Vault...plenty of great advice and the guys almost always answered all the questions posted
I mean it depends on how active you are, the more active you are the more carbs you need. If you aren't extremely active watch the carbs as to avoid fat gain as much as possible
It's easy for peanut butter to go in a shake...blender!
The great thing about the shakes is that you can put it in a jug with ice and bring it where ever you want and sip it till its gone and boom..that's two meals while your out.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.