"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Disco Clubs - 5 second rule.

MrS

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Do it.

Wait no longer than 5 seconds before seeing a hot chick and approaching, otherwise look for another.

I recently came to see the value of this, so just a reminder.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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MrS said:
Do it.

Wait no longer than 5 seconds before seeing a hot chick and approaching, otherwise look for another.

I recently came to see the value of this, so just a reminder.
Reason?
 

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The reason is if you hesitate, your mind becomes consumed with doubt. Therefore if you do it quick and within 5 seconds then you won't have time to doubt yourself, and you just do it.
 

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Shezz said:
I think you'll find this tip was introduced to the community way back in the day, and its called the 3 Second rule - not the 5 second rule. Allows you go straight into the set without planting any seeds of doubt into your mind.

Research before posting tips.

Sarge On...

Dam you beat me to it!!!! I wanted to correct him! :trouble:

3 second rule for the win!! Works a dream. Fvck analazing the situation....not in clubs....
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I actually wanted to know mrs personal reason was, as he didn't answer it in his tip.

Also why 5?

Personally I think the 3 second rule is rubbish
 

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Personally, I like six seconds, or seven if she's really hot. Six is enough to show that you're not desperate.

(if anyone gets the reference, and you dang well should considering it's the biggest DJ movie ever...)
 

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It's so crowded in a bar and peopel are often drunk so people don't give a **** about you anyway.

IMO 3,5,7 seconds is beside the point. Never go to a bar with the goal to pick up chicks because if it doesn't go well you go home with the tail between your legs. However if you go there just to have a kick ass time you'll:

- Have a blast even if every girl reject you
- Seem more attractice
- Take the girl into your reality
- Be so occupied by having fun you will not even get the chance to think about some girl
- Be able to approach when the time is right instead of just rushing in

get a nightlife
 

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realsmoothie said:
Personally, I like six seconds, or seven if she's really hot. Six is enough to show that you're not desperate.

(if anyone gets the reference, and you dang well should considering it's the biggest DJ movie ever...)

6 or 7 seconds ? What are u a retard ? 6.45 seconds is CLEARLY all the time you need to approach.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Wiesman44 said:
6 or 7 seconds ? What are u a retard ? 6.45 seconds is CLEARLY all the time you need to approach.

6.45?? Man, you are the retard!

I say it's 6.168 seconds! See that .168 there? That's a chinese secret of approach! That means "I'm on my way to greatness!" lol:p :crackup: :D
 

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charlezz said:
Does the 3sec rules apply to Club, street or both?
anywhere... if they are near by, just dont use it at a family reunion
 

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Almost every approach i do is in the club scene..when i first started not long ago i used the 3 secound rule but i found half the time i would just go right up to her and say something typical like "hi" "hey, whats your name"

lol!..terrible

Ive learned to prepare before i go out by keeping openers ive read or thought of/used before in the back of my mind ...just in case i cant think of anything good on the spot

Something i do first with the wingmen is go chill out and sit down with a couple of drinks and scan the area for HBs i want to talk to...as long as your a positive thinker you can watch a women for a while and something good to say will naturally come into your mind
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lifeforce said:
Never go to a bar with the goal to pick up chicks because if it doesn't go well you go home with the tail between your legs. However if you go there just to have a kick ass time you'll:

- Have a blast even if every girl reject you
- Seem more attractice
- Take the girl into your reality
- Be so occupied by having fun you will not even get the chance to think about some girl
- Be able to approach when the time is right instead of just rushing in

get a nightlife

:up:
 
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