Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Reason?MrS said:Do it.
Wait no longer than 5 seconds before seeing a hot chick and approaching, otherwise look for another.
I recently came to see the value of this, so just a reminder.
Shezz said:I think you'll find this tip was introduced to the community way back in the day, and its called the 3 Second rule - not the 5 second rule. Allows you go straight into the set without planting any seeds of doubt into your mind.
Research before posting tips.
Sarge On...
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
realsmoothie said:Personally, I like six seconds, or seven if she's really hot. Six is enough to show that you're not desperate.
(if anyone gets the reference, and you dang well should considering it's the biggest DJ movie ever...)
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Wiesman44 said:6 or 7 seconds ? What are u a retard ? 6.45 seconds is CLEARLY all the time you need to approach.
anywhere... if they are near by, just dont use it at a family reunioncharlezz said:Does the 3sec rules apply to Club, street or both?
haha, who would do that?Sekond said:anywhere... , just dont use it at a family reunion
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
dont know, and dont want to knowrsxtreme said:haha, who would do that?
Lifeforce said:Never go to a bar with the goal to pick up chicks because if it doesn't go well you go home with the tail between your legs. However if you go there just to have a kick ass time you'll:
- Have a blast even if every girl reject you
- Seem more attractice
- Take the girl into your reality
- Be so occupied by having fun you will not even get the chance to think about some girl
- Be able to approach when the time is right instead of just rushing in
get a nightlife