"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Disco Clubs - 5 second rule.

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Do it.

Wait no longer than 5 seconds before seeing a hot chick and approaching, otherwise look for another.

I recently came to see the value of this, so just a reminder.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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MrS said:
Do it.

Wait no longer than 5 seconds before seeing a hot chick and approaching, otherwise look for another.

I recently came to see the value of this, so just a reminder.
Reason?
 

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The reason is if you hesitate, your mind becomes consumed with doubt. Therefore if you do it quick and within 5 seconds then you won't have time to doubt yourself, and you just do it.
 

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Shezz said:
I think you'll find this tip was introduced to the community way back in the day, and its called the 3 Second rule - not the 5 second rule. Allows you go straight into the set without planting any seeds of doubt into your mind.

Research before posting tips.

Sarge On...

Dam you beat me to it!!!! I wanted to correct him! :trouble:

3 second rule for the win!! Works a dream. Fvck analazing the situation....not in clubs....
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I actually wanted to know mrs personal reason was, as he didn't answer it in his tip.

Also why 5?

Personally I think the 3 second rule is rubbish
 

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Personally, I like six seconds, or seven if she's really hot. Six is enough to show that you're not desperate.

(if anyone gets the reference, and you dang well should considering it's the biggest DJ movie ever...)
 

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It's so crowded in a bar and peopel are often drunk so people don't give a **** about you anyway.

IMO 3,5,7 seconds is beside the point. Never go to a bar with the goal to pick up chicks because if it doesn't go well you go home with the tail between your legs. However if you go there just to have a kick ass time you'll:

- Have a blast even if every girl reject you
- Seem more attractice
- Take the girl into your reality
- Be so occupied by having fun you will not even get the chance to think about some girl
- Be able to approach when the time is right instead of just rushing in

get a nightlife
 

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realsmoothie said:
Personally, I like six seconds, or seven if she's really hot. Six is enough to show that you're not desperate.

(if anyone gets the reference, and you dang well should considering it's the biggest DJ movie ever...)

6 or 7 seconds ? What are u a retard ? 6.45 seconds is CLEARLY all the time you need to approach.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Wiesman44 said:
6 or 7 seconds ? What are u a retard ? 6.45 seconds is CLEARLY all the time you need to approach.

6.45?? Man, you are the retard!

I say it's 6.168 seconds! See that .168 there? That's a chinese secret of approach! That means "I'm on my way to greatness!" lol:p :crackup: :D
 

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charlezz said:
Does the 3sec rules apply to Club, street or both?
anywhere... if they are near by, just dont use it at a family reunion
 

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Almost every approach i do is in the club scene..when i first started not long ago i used the 3 secound rule but i found half the time i would just go right up to her and say something typical like "hi" "hey, whats your name"

lol!..terrible

Ive learned to prepare before i go out by keeping openers ive read or thought of/used before in the back of my mind ...just in case i cant think of anything good on the spot

Something i do first with the wingmen is go chill out and sit down with a couple of drinks and scan the area for HBs i want to talk to...as long as your a positive thinker you can watch a women for a while and something good to say will naturally come into your mind
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Lifeforce said:
Never go to a bar with the goal to pick up chicks because if it doesn't go well you go home with the tail between your legs. However if you go there just to have a kick ass time you'll:

- Have a blast even if every girl reject you
- Seem more attractice
- Take the girl into your reality
- Be so occupied by having fun you will not even get the chance to think about some girl
- Be able to approach when the time is right instead of just rushing in

get a nightlife

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