"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Destroying Social Phobias

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This is a truly incredible post, it's basically the budding DJ's handbook.
Amazing, and great.
NICE!! :D
True DJ stuff.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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and good job to the guy that bumped it up from 2003 :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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links have been fixed
 

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Stuff like this never gets old. Time to shut off my computer and go out to the world and practice practice practice.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I just read it myself. It sure is worth another bump. I've even noticed things I have told others in here and in real life, e.g. talk to bar staff, befriend others in night spots, approach all people, not just women.

No more Us and Them...get comfy talking to any stranger. Then when you want to approach a nice gurl, save your brain power for the opening lines and absorbing tactical information, not wasting it on being scared witless...stress kills your logic centre, and you will flub lines and body language for sure.
 

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Teen Spirit said:
Boschy said:
absorbing tactical information,
Absorbing tactical information? You're a virgin, right? If not, you should be.

I suggest you read more of Fingz' more recent posts.
Huh? When I said "absorbing tactical information", I just meant looking for possible conversation topics: clothes, environment, weather, situation, etc.

Now, what did you mean?
 

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BUMP this is an AWESOME THREAD

i totally agree that it's so important to first develop social skills with people in general before seriously macking on girls.

you gotta be to hold a decent conversation with people you don't know really well before u can start actually macking on women.

thanks for this thread

10 FINGERS UP
 

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This needs to be read by anyone who hasn't already read it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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bravo this is a great thread , why isnt this stickied
 

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great advice... but I still have some trouble. After talking to many people in one day, my social anxiety seems to be fully disappeared... at least very low. But the next morning it starts all over again.
I have experienced this many times, and when I think the anxiety is gone at the end of the day, it starts all over again the next morning... damn, it almost seems to be impossible to get out of the cycle. I have been suffering from this anxiety for a year now.
 

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bumping this as this is a great thread; wish SS would have more quality posters these days. All the best stuff are in the archives!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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