"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Destroying Social Phobias

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This is a truly incredible post, it's basically the budding DJ's handbook.
Amazing, and great.
NICE!! :D
True DJ stuff.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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and good job to the guy that bumped it up from 2003 :)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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links have been fixed
 

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Stuff like this never gets old. Time to shut off my computer and go out to the world and practice practice practice.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I just read it myself. It sure is worth another bump. I've even noticed things I have told others in here and in real life, e.g. talk to bar staff, befriend others in night spots, approach all people, not just women.

No more Us and Them...get comfy talking to any stranger. Then when you want to approach a nice gurl, save your brain power for the opening lines and absorbing tactical information, not wasting it on being scared witless...stress kills your logic centre, and you will flub lines and body language for sure.
 

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Teen Spirit said:
Boschy said:
absorbing tactical information,
Absorbing tactical information? You're a virgin, right? If not, you should be.

I suggest you read more of Fingz' more recent posts.
Huh? When I said "absorbing tactical information", I just meant looking for possible conversation topics: clothes, environment, weather, situation, etc.

Now, what did you mean?
 

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BUMP this is an AWESOME THREAD

i totally agree that it's so important to first develop social skills with people in general before seriously macking on girls.

you gotta be to hold a decent conversation with people you don't know really well before u can start actually macking on women.

thanks for this thread

10 FINGERS UP
 

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This needs to be read by anyone who hasn't already read it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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bravo this is a great thread , why isnt this stickied
 

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great advice... but I still have some trouble. After talking to many people in one day, my social anxiety seems to be fully disappeared... at least very low. But the next morning it starts all over again.
I have experienced this many times, and when I think the anxiety is gone at the end of the day, it starts all over again the next morning... damn, it almost seems to be impossible to get out of the cycle. I have been suffering from this anxiety for a year now.
 

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bumping this as this is a great thread; wish SS would have more quality posters these days. All the best stuff are in the archives!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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