"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dealing with missed opportunities

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I'm having trouble getting over "what if" situations, basically things out of my control. Point and case, this girl I met a while back, kept her on the back burner until I recently broke up with me ex. She's wanted me for a long time. Got in contact, she tells me to come over, she has food waiting, brand new panties she wants to show me, the whole nine. I was flying in that day and my flight got diverted.

Long story short it didn't happen and just can't wrap my brain around things like that. Quick fix is have more abundance mentality, but long term how do you deal with this stuff internally?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Forget coulds, shoulds, and woulds. There's only what is and what isn't.
 
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JonnyD123 said:
Quick fix is have more abundance mentality, but long term how do you deal with this stuff internally?
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Quick fix is not have more abundance mentality, it's go get a hooker.

Long term you deal with it by having an abundance mentality. If you had another girl waiting for you, you would forget about this one. Plus, if the girl cared at all, she would have called you and said let's arrange for another day. She didn't care.
 
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JonnyD123 said:
I'm having trouble getting over "what if" situations, basically things out of my control. Point and case, this girl I met a while back, kept her on the back burner until I recently broke up with me ex. She's wanted me for a long time. Got in contact, she tells me to come over, she has food waiting, brand new panties she wants to show me, the whole nine. I was flying in that day and my flight got diverted.

Long story short it didn't happen and just can't wrap my brain around things like that. Quick fix is have more abundance mentality, but long term how do you deal with this stuff internally?
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Easy, you actively work on more women. You are stuck on what its because you are lazy and don't want to put in any work...it's easier for you to think about girls you have number for than ones you need to meet
 
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Don't buy into the FAKE urgency and high pressure sales tactic women use in relationships to keep you emotionally off balance.

A better way to look at things is if a woman really likes you.. she will find time to see you and f*ck you. She will not lose interest because you weren't available that ONE time she was horny lol. If she does.. it was never about you to begin with.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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