"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dealing with missed opportunities

JonnyD123

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I'm having trouble getting over "what if" situations, basically things out of my control. Point and case, this girl I met a while back, kept her on the back burner until I recently broke up with me ex. She's wanted me for a long time. Got in contact, she tells me to come over, she has food waiting, brand new panties she wants to show me, the whole nine. I was flying in that day and my flight got diverted.

Long story short it didn't happen and just can't wrap my brain around things like that. Quick fix is have more abundance mentality, but long term how do you deal with this stuff internally?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Thorninmyside

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Forget coulds, shoulds, and woulds. There's only what is and what isn't.
 

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Quick fix is have more abundance mentality, but long term how do you deal with this stuff internally?
Quick fix is not have more abundance mentality, it's go get a hooker.

Long term you deal with it by having an abundance mentality. If you had another girl waiting for you, you would forget about this one. Plus, if the girl cared at all, she would have called you and said let's arrange for another day. She didn't care.
 

marmel75

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I'm having trouble getting over "what if" situations, basically things out of my control. Point and case, this girl I met a while back, kept her on the back burner until I recently broke up with me ex. She's wanted me for a long time. Got in contact, she tells me to come over, she has food waiting, brand new panties she wants to show me, the whole nine. I was flying in that day and my flight got diverted.

Long story short it didn't happen and just can't wrap my brain around things like that. Quick fix is have more abundance mentality, but long term how do you deal with this stuff internally?
Easy, you actively work on more women. You are stuck on what its because you are lazy and don't want to put in any work...it's easier for you to think about girls you have number for than ones you need to meet
 

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Don't buy into the FAKE urgency and high pressure sales tactic women use in relationships to keep you emotionally off balance.

A better way to look at things is if a woman really likes you.. she will find time to see you and f*ck you. She will not lose interest because you weren't available that ONE time she was horny lol. If she does.. it was never about you to begin with.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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