"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dealing with missed opportunities

JonnyD123

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I'm having trouble getting over "what if" situations, basically things out of my control. Point and case, this girl I met a while back, kept her on the back burner until I recently broke up with me ex. She's wanted me for a long time. Got in contact, she tells me to come over, she has food waiting, brand new panties she wants to show me, the whole nine. I was flying in that day and my flight got diverted.

Long story short it didn't happen and just can't wrap my brain around things like that. Quick fix is have more abundance mentality, but long term how do you deal with this stuff internally?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Thorninmyside

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Forget coulds, shoulds, and woulds. There's only what is and what isn't.
 

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Quick fix is have more abundance mentality, but long term how do you deal with this stuff internally?
Quick fix is not have more abundance mentality, it's go get a hooker.

Long term you deal with it by having an abundance mentality. If you had another girl waiting for you, you would forget about this one. Plus, if the girl cared at all, she would have called you and said let's arrange for another day. She didn't care.
 

marmel75

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I'm having trouble getting over "what if" situations, basically things out of my control. Point and case, this girl I met a while back, kept her on the back burner until I recently broke up with me ex. She's wanted me for a long time. Got in contact, she tells me to come over, she has food waiting, brand new panties she wants to show me, the whole nine. I was flying in that day and my flight got diverted.

Long story short it didn't happen and just can't wrap my brain around things like that. Quick fix is have more abundance mentality, but long term how do you deal with this stuff internally?
Easy, you actively work on more women. You are stuck on what its because you are lazy and don't want to put in any work...it's easier for you to think about girls you have number for than ones you need to meet
 

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Don't buy into the FAKE urgency and high pressure sales tactic women use in relationships to keep you emotionally off balance.

A better way to look at things is if a woman really likes you.. she will find time to see you and f*ck you. She will not lose interest because you weren't available that ONE time she was horny lol. If she does.. it was never about you to begin with.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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