"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dealing with an indecisive girl

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Fvck her up front to verify interest and sufficient attraction
Lately I’ve learned that it’s best to not beat around the bush. Like the story you told me the other day. Let those intentions be known. If she rejects there’s nothing left to talk about.

I’ve noticed that when a man is uncertain and doesn’t let his intention out that he starts thinking about her too much. If she rejects, it’s a favor. Your mind can move on. This is about sex and intimacy. This is not about drinking buddies or hunting buddies. It’s about filling all her holes and pleasing her and you.
 

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Lately I’ve learned that it’s best to not beat around the bush. Like the story you told me the other day. Let those intentions be known. If she rejects there’s nothing left to talk about.

I’ve noticed that when a man is uncertain and doesn’t let his intention out that he starts thinking about her too much. If she rejects, it’s a favor. Your mind can move on. This is about sex and intimacy. This is not about drinking buddies or hunting buddies. It’s about filling all her holes and pleasing her and you.
Thats a different way to do it but i like it

But you got to aproach in idgaf way
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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love the first two but I'd argue that these days you can get sex on the side from the friendzone
Agreed.

It’s a tricky one because it depends on how you define “friendzone.” If you include the possibility of “friend sex,” then fine. But that implicitly assumes that she finds you at least somewhat attractive.

The term friendzone has traditionally been taken to mean “treat you like a brother” or “no sex zone” because she’s just not attracted to you AT ALL, although you’re a decent person and not a creep lol. In that case, it would be hard to get out of that “friendzone.” That’s all.

When I was in eighth grade, my aunt kept telling me that my crush was “playing hard to get.” But that advice just didn’t sit right with me at the time. I didn’t know the answer, but it just seemed off.

If I knew in eighth grade what I know now, I would have said, “No Auntie. There’s no such thing as playing hard to get. She doesn’t think I’m cute. She prefers the class Chad. Your nephew got blackpilled LOL.”
 

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Want to get her attention. Treat her like a casual aquantance. She is not special. She doesn't get anything from you. Period. You do not lift a finger of effort for her ever again.

Go date other women. If she cares you will hear about it.

Bottom line, you shouldn't care.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Come on man! After she turned you down twice you're still thinking about her? Fvck that. She can't simply flip her hair to get you to jump up on her lap like a puppy after she rejected you TWICE. Have a little self-respect (or no one else will, especially women). I wouldn't even acknowledge her presence unless SHE puts in some good effort to get my attention. What you need to do is simple...put your energy into finding another woman.
 

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funny is when he did move on and find someone else, then she will really try to get to him, and that is IF everything we are guessing is real, my guts is just telling, waht she is doing is nothing to do with him and in this case just a coincidence, she need to study now hence why she is showing, or she is jsut bored to dead, tehre is nothing to do with the op, with is pretty sad
 

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Too much time and energy is being wasted here.

So she’s orbiting. She may want to see if you’ll still give her attention and then bolt when you do.

Or she wants you to be aggressive and get to the point.

You treat employees for their performance. You never treat women for sexual interest or consideration.

Reward women for good behavior to reinforce good behavior.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yeah I’ll keep that in mind. Thanks for everyone’s advice. If she does care I believe she hint more than just orbiting
It's ok to make a few attempts but after that it's best to move along, no hard feelings towards her though, you don't have to ignore, just interact with her in a normal casual way.
 

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It's ok to make a few attempts but after that it's best to move along, no hard feelings towards her though, you don't have to ignore, just interact with her in a normal casual way.
In this case I'd ignore her 100% just like she did him after turning him down. Don't be the beta guy who takes his lashes and then gives her closure from the guilt and validation to move on. This will cement in her mind that she was right about putting him in the friend zone. The only exception is if she asks a direct question then you simply respond as you would to someone at the coffee shop asking you what time it is. If she says we should hang out or some such...I'd say 'kinda busy these days but drop me a note next week if you wanna meet for drinks...gotta go.'
 

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I’ll try to help.

1. She must be playing hard to get*.

*State of the art advice from 1977.

2. She doesn’t care about your looks, only your game. Be ****y and funny.**

**2004 advice

3. The is no escape from friendzone. Forget about her and move on.***

***Classic, timeless advice

Go with #3.
You can have female friends but a friendzone chick dont count as a friend. She uses you for favor and ego boost.
 

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She’s driving me nuts. Today she’s there waiting for me. lol seriously wow. Wonder how far is she going to take this.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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