Dealing with an indecisive girl

[mrgoodstuff]

She’s driving me nuts. Today she’s there waiting for me. lol seriously wow. Wonder how far is she going to take this.

Whats going on? What you do different?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Agreed.

It’s a tricky one because it depends on how you define “friendzone.” If you include the possibility of “friend sex,” then fine. But that implicitly assumes that she finds you at least somewhat attractive.

The term friendzone has traditionally been taken to mean “treat you like a brother” or “no sex zone” because she’s just not attracted to you AT ALL, although you’re a decent person and not a creep lol. In that case, it would be hard to get out of that “friendzone.” That’s all.

When I was in eighth grade, my aunt kept telling me that my crush was “playing hard to get.” But that advice just didn’t sit right with me at the time. I didn’t know the answer, but it just seemed off.

If I knew in eighth grade what I know now, I would have said, “No Auntie. There’s no such thing as playing hard to get. She doesn’t think I’m cute. She prefers the class Chad. Your nephew got blackpilled LOL.”

Ignore friendzone chick fvck abother one.

 

[RangerMIke]

Should I try avoiding her further? I feel like she’s feeling regretful on rejecting me. She probably heard I’m a person of higher status in a MNC company. I don’t know but my friends told me she’s a very realistic girl.

All actions that you take to try and land this chick will do you no good. Because your efforts are pointless. If she doesn't like you, nothing you do will matter... if she does like you... anything you 'do' will make you look weak because you have placed her in a position above you which ruins her attraction.

She likes you or she doesn't. Just own that either way the only way to know for sure which is which is to back off and see what she does. If she reaches out... try to make a date and see what happens... if she doesn't no problem... just go after other chicks.

The most attractive thing a man can do to a chick is to make an offer (a date) and if she gives you any any resistance just walk away and find someone else to pursue.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Dont do favor for friendzone girl. Maybe let her reach u 1-2 times a month. Youll be best if you find one or two steady sex partners. That changes alot. As you see with many of these chicks when They see your not with another they lose interest. Women love to steal a man off another.

Dont do it for revenge. Do it cause you want to enjoy your life. A friendzone chick is a life stealer.

 

[guru1000]

How do you deal with an indecisive girl? You don't.

You should be the indecisive one. <<==Here is the problem

Whenever I hear a guy asking "why" "what if" "does she"--I don't read further. The frame is collapsed. Chapter closed. Have a nice day.

 

[Glassguy]

I don’t know. I feel she’s playing hard to get too badly. Her rejection felt like a “@&$ test. I bet she didn’t expect I took the rejection seriously and now she’s seems to be trying hard to get my attention.

If she wasn’t interested she wouldn’t even bother to be near me. She has her own study group of Chinese peeps. Most annoying thing is she always find ways to sit directly in front of me or besides me.

I’m not going to give her any power over me. I’m just going continue to ignore her till she gets tired of her silly games

I agree with @marmel75

She isnt playing "hard to get". You just dont take the "not interested" hint very well.

I am going to take the time to explain it to you in a couple of different ways in hopes to make your mind understand REALITY on her and any other girl that doesnt accept your date invitation and also show up with a smile on her face.

If I ask a girl out and she tells me anything that leads to her not accepting my offer, I stop contact right then and there. Period. My response is simple- "No worries. Take care".

Now let me explain what happens next:

1.) She will never hear from me again unless she reaches out.
2.) If she reaches out, and I am still interested at that point, I will make one more attempt for her to come over and hang out or meet up for a drink. She is not getting dinner or some important date from me at that point (and probably wasnt to begin with either btw). If she doesnt jump on that offer like a hobo on a ham sandwich then I am done because she is seeking validation only or more orbiters for future validation. Period. I am gone like dust in the wind. Chances are I will probably not respond to any friendly chatter she would send me in the future as I am not interested in that as it does nothing for me.
3.) If she was on the fence about going out with me during the first time I asked her out, playing hard to get or however you want to define it, she will see after my "no worries take care" text that I am NOT going to pursue her in any way shape or form. If she is in fact interested but my SMV in her eyes was just a little low, I just raised it by having an abundance mindset and showing her that I can easily walk away because I have other options. She may or may not reach back out. Who knows what she has going on behind the scenes that I do not know about and really I dont care to know about.

Thats it. It is very simple. I do very well with women on my terms and if a woman doesnt give me a clear YES and show up on the date I simply move on as if nothing ever happened. If I see them out I smile and say "hi" and thats it. They are merely a person that I know and not someone that rejected me. I show no concern either way because at the end of the day, she doesnt really matter because I have invested NOTHING into her.

When you start spinning multiple plates all the time, you will automatically develop a mindset that naturally doesnt invest too much into one person and develop ONEITIS. You will instead be constantly looking for potential women to add to your roster that will do things that you benefit. Instead of you doing 90% or even all of the initiation, you will just sit back and pick and choose as the weekend date offers come in throughout the week.

Life is much easier that way.

 

[Skyline]

Hard to get in 2018 is a myth

Yeah, there's no such thing as playing hard to get. It's a fancy way to say 'not interested' but will keep you around.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Yeah, there's no such thing as playing hard to get. It's a fancy way to say 'not interested' but will keep you around.

Friendzone. It consumes your masculinity and male swagger. Dont allow it. Have discipline.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Friendzone. It consumes your masculinity and male swagger. Dont allow it. Have discipline.

The defense is to get other girls. As in fvcking. She has to come to you. She cant be your friend.

 

[redpiano]

Hi All, thanks for your advices. I’m usually dumb and clumsy towards girls. I’ll face reality that she just isn’t interested and just want my attention for fun.

I’ll continue to ignore her and let her orbit around me. See how far is she going to go just for my attention. Hope she gives up soon.

 

[lamath]

Hi All, thanks for your advices. I’m usually dumb and clumsy towards girls. I’ll face reality that she just isn’t interested and just want my attention for fun.

I’ll continue to ignore her and let her orbit around me. See how far is she going to go just for my attention. Hope she gives up soon.

If she ever ask you out tell her she is inviting you and that she is paying