You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
That is soooo ****ing true. We sure may be glad that women don't judge us on our looks as much as we do with them. Let's face it, the ugly women will never get a great lover. They may get a nice (desperate) husband, but they'll never going to get a great lover (without the help of mr. plastic surgery)I agree big time with Social Engineering. He hit the main point right on the head! Those books for women will not work! No ****ing way! If she isn't pretty, if I'm not attracted to her physical, there is absolutely no way in hell I'll fall for her. Even if I wanted to and tried! I guess that's an advantage us guys have over girls. We might not be that physically attractive to her, but we can do things to make her feel attracted to us. A girl on the other hand, if we don't find her physically attractive (and she's reached her max on the ten scale, meaning she's at the best she could possibly be without losing anymore weight, boob job, etc.), then there's absolutely nothing she can do to make us feel a genuine attraction to her. She can study Mark Matthews material and other stuff 10 X more than we study this **** and she still won't get any where. THERE'S ABSOLUTELY NOTHING A GIRL CAN DO TO MAKE US FEEL ATTRACTED TO HER IF WE DON'T FIND HER PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE.
I've been very fortunate in life in that I've never had a hard time meeting women or getting dates... but finding a woman who can keep my interest and attention has always been a different story...
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
definitely true. At best, she can become a friend.Originally posted by john_1234
I agree big time with Social Engineering. He hit the main point right on the head! Those books for women will not work! No ****ing way! If she isn't pretty, if I'm not attracted to her physical, there is absolutely no way in hell I'll fall for her. Even if I wanted to and tried! I guess that's an advantage us guys have over girls. We might not be that physically attractive to her, but we can do things to make her feel attracted to us. A girl on the other hand, if we don't find her physically attractive (and she's reached her max on the ten scale, meaning she's at the best she could possibly be without losing anymore weight, boob job, etc.), then there's absolutely nothing she can do to make us feel a genuine attraction to her. She can study Mark Matthews material and other stuff 10 X more than we study this **** and she still won't get any where. THERE'S ABSOLUTELY NOTHING A GIRL CAN DO TO MAKE US FEEL ATTRACTED TO HER IF WE DON'T FIND HER PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE.
This is a blatant lie that society has been brainwashing you with. Women are very, very simple creatures. They work more on emotion and less logic when it comes to attraction. That's about it. They're still human like men.Originally posted by Social Engineering
Woman are way more complex.
Emotions are complex, so essentially he is right. And I don't think they work with less logic if you say they're simple they do indeed work with logic. They just can incorporate their emotions quite well when it comes into play which is also can be their weakness if they lose control over it.Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
This is a blatant lie that society has been brainwashing you with. Women are very, very simple creatures. They work more on emotion and less logic when it comes to attraction. That's about it. They're still human like men.
Originally posted by DonJuanMonk
I just wanted to say that anyone who has a last name Italiano-style is a sleazeball.
Just wanted to let you know.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
In a way this is right, but look at it this way. We as men, try figuring out women with logic, when they don't necessarily work on logic. So we're really using the wrong tools for the job. Any job can look more complex than it really is when you use the wrong tools. Try tightening a screw with a hammer, you'll find it is pretty difficult.Originally posted by DonJuanMonk
Emotions are complex, so essentially he is right. And I don't think they work with less logic if you say they're simple they do indeed work with logic. They just can incorporate their emotions quite well when it comes into play which is also can be their weakness if they lose control over it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Most posters on this thread suffer from selective listening/reading. Or ADD.Originally posted by Tweek_1984
Wow, this is pretty suprising.
So is DeAngelos material still kosher or is it all BS?
Originally posted by john_1234
I agree big time with Social Engineering. He hit the main point right on the head! Those books for women will not work! No ****ing way! If she isn't pretty, if I'm not attracted to her physical, there is absolutely no way in hell I'll fall for her.
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THERE'S ABSOLUTELY NOTHING A GIRL CAN DO TO MAKE US FEEL ATTRACTED TO HER IF WE DON'T FIND HER PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.