"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dating when ~50

nzrod

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Hi
I am now 52 and find the dating scene in New Zealand to be apalling at this age, almost to the point of needing to move countries. Almost every women say 43+ are overweight, or have purple hair, or are just unattractive. About 5% are very attractive ("hotty"), but all seem to have issues.

I just went on a date with a hotty and it was going well but half way through she condescendingly said I had lived a "sheltered life" and was serious about it as I didn't share her conspiracy theory about the World Economic Forum. It is just not something I have focused on. She also said she would rather get shot in the head than take the vaccine.

Another one was hot but had daddy issues and was jealous of me having a child.

I am very fit and economically sold but women here in their 30s and less dont often swipe right on 52 year olds.

Do you all just give up?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Fortune_favors_the_bold

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Now you have your answer, those who got vaxxed gained weight...that was a plan from the WEF to decrease natality.
 

MatureDJ

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Hi
I am now 52 and find the dating scene in New Zealand to be apalling at this age, almost to the point of needing to move countries. Almost every women say 43+ are overweight, or have purple hair, or are just unattractive. About 5% are very attractive ("hotty"), but all seem to have issues.

I just went on a date with a hotty and it was going well but half way through she condescendingly said I had lived a "sheltered life" and was serious about it as I didn't share her conspiracy theory about the World Economic Forum. It is just not something I have focused on. She also said she would rather get shot in the head than take the vaccine.

Another one was hot but had daddy issues and was jealous of me having a child.

I am very fit and economically sold but women here in their 30s and less dont often swipe right on 52 year olds.

Do you all just give up?
GeoMax. :)
 

nzrod

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It's OVER for HalfCenturyCels.
Thats not very encouraging! I'm successful in every area of life and look good so not willing to accept my dating of sane, attractive women is over! I think I need to move!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I am very fit and economically sold but women here in their 30s and less dont often swipe right on 52 year olds.
Does Tinder still use a 10 year age range by default? Most women get enough matches - they don't change the default. So it's worse than you think: most women in their 30s are never even seeing your profile (per default age limit of 10 years older).
 

SW15

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He is not the oldest gen Xer. But, come to think of it most Gen Xers are getting there though.
The oldest Gen X'ers were born in 1965 and they will be turning 58 this year. The oldest part of Gen X would be considered the 1965-1969 births, so those people are turning 54-58 in 2023.

Neil Strauss was born in 1969, so he's a part of that group.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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