"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dating when ~50

nzrod

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Hi
I am now 52 and find the dating scene in New Zealand to be apalling at this age, almost to the point of needing to move countries. Almost every women say 43+ are overweight, or have purple hair, or are just unattractive. About 5% are very attractive ("hotty"), but all seem to have issues.

I just went on a date with a hotty and it was going well but half way through she condescendingly said I had lived a "sheltered life" and was serious about it as I didn't share her conspiracy theory about the World Economic Forum. It is just not something I have focused on. She also said she would rather get shot in the head than take the vaccine.

Another one was hot but had daddy issues and was jealous of me having a child.

I am very fit and economically sold but women here in their 30s and less dont often swipe right on 52 year olds.

Do you all just give up?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Fortune_favors_the_bold

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Now you have your answer, those who got vaxxed gained weight...that was a plan from the WEF to decrease natality.
 

MatureDJ

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Hi
I am now 52 and find the dating scene in New Zealand to be apalling at this age, almost to the point of needing to move countries. Almost every women say 43+ are overweight, or have purple hair, or are just unattractive. About 5% are very attractive ("hotty"), but all seem to have issues.

I just went on a date with a hotty and it was going well but half way through she condescendingly said I had lived a "sheltered life" and was serious about it as I didn't share her conspiracy theory about the World Economic Forum. It is just not something I have focused on. She also said she would rather get shot in the head than take the vaccine.

Another one was hot but had daddy issues and was jealous of me having a child.

I am very fit and economically sold but women here in their 30s and less dont often swipe right on 52 year olds.

Do you all just give up?
GeoMax. :)
 

nzrod

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It's OVER for HalfCenturyCels.
Thats not very encouraging! I'm successful in every area of life and look good so not willing to accept my dating of sane, attractive women is over! I think I need to move!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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FlirtLife

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I am very fit and economically sold but women here in their 30s and less dont often swipe right on 52 year olds.
Does Tinder still use a 10 year age range by default? Most women get enough matches - they don't change the default. So it's worse than you think: most women in their 30s are never even seeing your profile (per default age limit of 10 years older).
 

SW15

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He is not the oldest gen Xer. But, come to think of it most Gen Xers are getting there though.
The oldest Gen X'ers were born in 1965 and they will be turning 58 this year. The oldest part of Gen X would be considered the 1965-1969 births, so those people are turning 54-58 in 2023.

Neil Strauss was born in 1969, so he's a part of that group.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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