"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dating when ~50

nzrod

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Hi
I am now 52 and find the dating scene in New Zealand to be apalling at this age, almost to the point of needing to move countries. Almost every women say 43+ are overweight, or have purple hair, or are just unattractive. About 5% are very attractive ("hotty"), but all seem to have issues.

I just went on a date with a hotty and it was going well but half way through she condescendingly said I had lived a "sheltered life" and was serious about it as I didn't share her conspiracy theory about the World Economic Forum. It is just not something I have focused on. She also said she would rather get shot in the head than take the vaccine.

Another one was hot but had daddy issues and was jealous of me having a child.

I am very fit and economically sold but women here in their 30s and less dont often swipe right on 52 year olds.

Do you all just give up?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Fortune_favors_the_bold

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Now you have your answer, those who got vaxxed gained weight...that was a plan from the WEF to decrease natality.
 

MatureDJ

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Hi
I am now 52 and find the dating scene in New Zealand to be apalling at this age, almost to the point of needing to move countries. Almost every women say 43+ are overweight, or have purple hair, or are just unattractive. About 5% are very attractive ("hotty"), but all seem to have issues.

I just went on a date with a hotty and it was going well but half way through she condescendingly said I had lived a "sheltered life" and was serious about it as I didn't share her conspiracy theory about the World Economic Forum. It is just not something I have focused on. She also said she would rather get shot in the head than take the vaccine.

Another one was hot but had daddy issues and was jealous of me having a child.

I am very fit and economically sold but women here in their 30s and less dont often swipe right on 52 year olds.

Do you all just give up?
GeoMax. :)
 

nzrod

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It's OVER for HalfCenturyCels.
Thats not very encouraging! I'm successful in every area of life and look good so not willing to accept my dating of sane, attractive women is over! I think I need to move!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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FlirtLife

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I am very fit and economically sold but women here in their 30s and less dont often swipe right on 52 year olds.
Does Tinder still use a 10 year age range by default? Most women get enough matches - they don't change the default. So it's worse than you think: most women in their 30s are never even seeing your profile (per default age limit of 10 years older).
 

SW15

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He is not the oldest gen Xer. But, come to think of it most Gen Xers are getting there though.
The oldest Gen X'ers were born in 1965 and they will be turning 58 this year. The oldest part of Gen X would be considered the 1965-1969 births, so those people are turning 54-58 in 2023.

Neil Strauss was born in 1969, so he's a part of that group.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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