Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Dating when ~50

nzrod

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Hi
I am now 52 and find the dating scene in New Zealand to be apalling at this age, almost to the point of needing to move countries. Almost every women say 43+ are overweight, or have purple hair, or are just unattractive. About 5% are very attractive ("hotty"), but all seem to have issues.

I just went on a date with a hotty and it was going well but half way through she condescendingly said I had lived a "sheltered life" and was serious about it as I didn't share her conspiracy theory about the World Economic Forum. It is just not something I have focused on. She also said she would rather get shot in the head than take the vaccine.

Another one was hot but had daddy issues and was jealous of me having a child.

I am very fit and economically sold but women here in their 30s and less dont often swipe right on 52 year olds.

Do you all just give up?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Now you have your answer, those who got vaxxed gained weight...that was a plan from the WEF to decrease natality.
 

MatureDJ

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Hi
I am now 52 and find the dating scene in New Zealand to be apalling at this age, almost to the point of needing to move countries. Almost every women say 43+ are overweight, or have purple hair, or are just unattractive. About 5% are very attractive ("hotty"), but all seem to have issues.

I just went on a date with a hotty and it was going well but half way through she condescendingly said I had lived a "sheltered life" and was serious about it as I didn't share her conspiracy theory about the World Economic Forum. It is just not something I have focused on. She also said she would rather get shot in the head than take the vaccine.

Another one was hot but had daddy issues and was jealous of me having a child.

I am very fit and economically sold but women here in their 30s and less dont often swipe right on 52 year olds.

Do you all just give up?
GeoMax. :)
 

nzrod

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It's OVER for HalfCenturyCels.
Thats not very encouraging! I'm successful in every area of life and look good so not willing to accept my dating of sane, attractive women is over! I think I need to move!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I am very fit and economically sold but women here in their 30s and less dont often swipe right on 52 year olds.
Does Tinder still use a 10 year age range by default? Most women get enough matches - they don't change the default. So it's worse than you think: most women in their 30s are never even seeing your profile (per default age limit of 10 years older).
 

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He is not the oldest gen Xer. But, come to think of it most Gen Xers are getting there though.
The oldest Gen X'ers were born in 1965 and they will be turning 58 this year. The oldest part of Gen X would be considered the 1965-1969 births, so those people are turning 54-58 in 2023.

Neil Strauss was born in 1969, so he's a part of that group.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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