"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dating is fun. Act like it

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Fellow gentle men and FrogTheRichard,
I hope you all have had a swell week. And if you have not; let’s have a kick ass weekend.
I assume quite a few of you are going to engage in some dates this weekend. So enjoy them. Go in with the mindset that you will have fun no matter what. But in order to do that take them to something you genuinely enjoy. I personally don’t like the old bar and some drinks bit, instead I take my women to D&Bs. I’m a cheap mofo so I A LOT of tokens saved up from winning games. And there’s the possibility for some drinks. Plus I genuinely enjoy the time I spend there.
So this weekend I say screw impressing them(or trying to. Wether consciously or subconsciously) and impress yourself
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Fellow gentle men and FrogTheRichard,
I hope you all have had a swell week. And if you have not; let’s have a kick ass weekend.
I assume quite a few of you are going to engage in some dates this weekend. So enjoy them. Go in with the mindset that you will have fun no matter what. But in order to do that take them to something you genuinely enjoy. I personally don’t like the old bar and some drinks bit, instead I take my women to D&Bs. I’m a cheap mofo so I A LOT of tokens saved up from winning games. And there’s the possibility for some drinks. Plus I genuinely enjoy the time I spend there.
So this weekend I say screw impressing them(or trying to. Wether consciously or subconsciously) and impress yourself
Quit mentioning me. You don't know me, you weak little man.
 

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he was saying something nice and giving you hope big baby
 

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Exactly. Dating is fun ... if you’re getting dates. Most men here struggle with the conditional “if” part because they are lazy or fearful.
 

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"Dating is fun. Act like it"

 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Exactly. Dating is fun ... if you’re getting dates. Most men here struggle with the conditional “if” part because they are lazy or fearful.
I get a lot of dates from old but they are usually crap. Jeez. I rarely go on worthful date. Half of my dates are like other side is unhappy and doesnt want to be there. I assume i dont meet their expectations
 

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I get a lot of dates from old but they are usually crap. Jeez. I rarely go on worthful date. Half of my dates are like other side is unhappy and doesnt want to be there. I assume i dont meet their expectations
Sample size of two renders this meaningless. Get 10-20 under your belt, see the results, and then we can talk further.
 

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Too many people act like its a life and death struggle
 

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It's a blast. See every interaction as an opportunity, enjoy the process, be open to people & enjoy yourself without taking yourself, others, or life too seriously.

That is the secret to magnetic people. They are attractive because of the joy they radiate outward.

Live, date and love from a place of joy and you'll never lack for companionship.
 

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It's a blast. See every interaction as an opportunity, enjoy the process, be open to people & enjoy yourself without taking yourself, others, or life too seriously.

That is the secret to magnetic people. They are attractive because of the joy they radiate outward.

Live, date and love from a place of joy and you'll never lack for companionship.
Some people just get it. Others don’t. The less people that get it. The better for the men that do. Women sense when a guy radiates positivity and confidence. They gravitate towards that man, or group etc.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Some people just get it. Others don’t. The less people that get it. The better for the men that do. Women sense when a guy radiates positivity and confidence. They gravitate towards that man, or group etc.
You "get it?"......

*Match on Tinder*...

You: Hey wanna fvck
Her: Sure, come over

Do you think "it" = they like your pictures?
 
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