do you want to have kids right now?
do you want to have kids within the next 20 years?
that's the psychology behind it
Neither of us want kids. That's one appealing thing which is rare
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
do you want to have kids right now?
do you want to have kids within the next 20 years?
that's the psychology behind it
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Don't believe it. Why would she tell you this if you didn't ask? Either for sympathy or to be a victim.
After 7 months of meeting guys, making plans and dating, she finally found you, someone she can connect with and feel safe enough with to have sex. Yet, she is still dating a little. Isn't that a paradox? Why is she looking to date more people if she completely and utterly and soulessly gave her body to you?
Exactly bro. So either she is completely lying or isn't telling the truth.
My response would be 'Honey, you are FORTY year old woman. Unless you are an Accoutant, Doctor, Lawyer, Scientist, or Engineer, any thinking you do is not relevant to society. And since you probably can't get pregnant your value is close to 0. But I'd still like to have sex with you.'![]()
Yes, it HAS to be a lay. If it's not a lay that's not good, because you might be the guy she calls when she wants dinner or a nice date and she calls other guy to lay the pipe.I totally agree about the paradox. If she feels comfortable and safe but wants to date, then I going to fill my schedule with others. Maybe she change that tune. Even if she does that was her decision before and just see if I can keep it as a lay for a little while.
Some females do this. They might've found the d1ck they are phvcking for now, but they don't stop dating. It's not necessarily looking for "new d1ck", but they do it for "fun". This is the type you don't try to be exclusive and you have plates.
If I'm laying it to her she is not going to any any others. If it did stop then I bolt anyway after leaving her a upper decker lol jkYes, it HAS to be a lay. If it's not a lay that's not good, because you might be the guy she calls when she wants dinner or a nice date and she calls other guy to lay the pipe.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
dude if any of this was even remotely true about her, it would've been difficult for you to get laid, not easy and she'd want committment
How most but not all women are... If you are hitting it often like 3-5 times a week, she likely won't take on any additional d1ck. If she does it will be very occasional, but she won't have two guys in there going 3-5 times a week.If I'm laying it to her she is not going to any any others. If it did stop then I bolt anyway after leaving her a upper decker lol jk
I will know if she does. She is fairly busy and goes to bed early most nights. If it's no date on Saturday and no text then that will be the signHow most but not all women are... If you are hitting it often like 3-5 times a week, she likely won't take on any additional d1ck. If she does it will be very occasional, but she won't have two guys in there going 3-5 times a week.