Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Nurses are FWB only. It is a single woman / single mother profession. Do not get serious with a nurse.Anyone have experience? I'd like to hear your thoughts, pros/cons, etc.
My cousin was married to a nurse who likely monkey branched him. They had 2 kids together and our family strongly suspects that she was having an affair with a doctor at the hospital. She was late 30s and a mom of 2 kids. The divorce was filed for about 6 months before the pandemic started and she's already introduced the kids to a new man, which might be a hospital doctor or some other dude.Nurses are FWB only. It is a single woman / single mother profession. Do not get serious with a nurse.
Not only that, many of them have this weird thing where they work 3 or so 12-hour shifts in a row, and then take 3 or so days off and revert back to a daytime waking schedule. And their work hours are a little random to begin withI have not dated a night shift nurse. If you're a regular day shift, white collar office worker, I can imagine that it would be challenging to line up schedules with a night shift nurse.
Yea that's what she's on. I dont know how that works physically or mentally but I imagine it can be taxing.Not only that, many of them have this weird thing where they work 3 or so 12-hour shifts in a row, and then take 3 or so days off and revert back to a daytime waking schedule. And their work hours are a little random to begin with
So yeah, logistical issues for sure...
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Women are usually better at having affairs than men are. Don't let that comment derail this thread.The contributions made so far on the subject are all very interesting and valid, but i wish to present a slightly different angle.
Night shift nurses in committed relationships have the perfect cover for nefarious activities, if they wish to misbehave. Back in my mid 20s l for about 6months I was fvcking a nurse who was stuck in an unhappy relationship. She was engaged to her boyfriend of 4years but was unhappy and looking for a way out. She used to take leave from work but not tell her fiancee. So on those leave dates she’d put on her uniform as normal, jump into her car as if she’s going to work but come over to my place instead. She would spend the whole night in my bed and set her alarm for 7am, when she’d wake up and go home, as if she’s coming from work. Being a young guy, I used to get a buzz from fvcking a real nurse in a real nurse’s uniform.
If you date a nurse or any professional who works night shifts, be prepared for the above-mentioned possibility.
Thank you.
Seems like the consensus is to not take this woman serious. And I'm good with that. She seemed like the party type when I met her so that helps keep things in perspective.The contributions made so far on the subject are all very interesting and valid, but i wish to present a slightly different angle.
Night shift nurses in committed relationships have the perfect cover for nefarious activities, if they wish to misbehave. Back in my mid 20s l for about 6months I was fvcking a nurse who was stuck in an unhappy relationship. She was engaged to her boyfriend of 4years but was unhappy and looking for a way out. She used to take leave from work but not tell her fiancee. So on those leave dates she’d put on her uniform as normal, jump into her car as if she’s going to work but come over to my place instead. She would spend the whole night in my bed and set her alarm for 7am, when she’d wake up and go home, as if she’s coming from work. Being a young guy, I used to get a buzz from fvcking a real nurse in a real nurse’s uniform.
If you date a nurse or any professional who works night shifts, be prepared for the above-mentioned possibility.
Thank you.
There would not be nurses in a lot of those fields. I think this is more applicable for female doctors. In general, I recommend staying away from women with masters level degrees or higher. If you want a good girlfriend, in most cases you want a woman with a bachelor's degree or less. Her BA/BS degree should be a state university and some not elitist school.Depends which specialty....
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.