"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dating a Nightshift Nurse

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Anyone have experience? I'd like to hear your thoughts, pros/cons, etc.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Are we talking florence nightingale syndrome? Is the nurse caring for you or is this just a chick who works as one?
 

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I think he means Night shift nurses.

 

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Night shift nurse. She approached me at a local bar and offered her number. So far it's been weird since she sleeps during the day so contact has been very minimal. Just wondering if it's worth pursuing.
 

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Fack go for it.... Just get clear on her hours and when she is sleeping. Since she was at the bar there IS some time in the evenings available.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Depends which specialty....

 

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I have not dated a night shift nurse. If you're a regular day shift, white collar office worker, I can imagine that it would be challenging to line up schedules with a night shift nurse.

Nurses are FWB only. It is a single woman / single mother profession. Do not get serious with a nurse.
My cousin was married to a nurse who likely monkey branched him. They had 2 kids together and our family strongly suspects that she was having an affair with a doctor at the hospital. She was late 30s and a mom of 2 kids. The divorce was filed for about 6 months before the pandemic started and she's already introduced the kids to a new man, which might be a hospital doctor or some other dude.

I guess my cousin is an example of "Do not get serious with a nurse".

Prior to ~1990, nurses used to have a good reputation of being a paragon of femininity.
 

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I have not dated a night shift nurse. If you're a regular day shift, white collar office worker, I can imagine that it would be challenging to line up schedules with a night shift nurse.
Not only that, many of them have this weird thing where they work 3 or so 12-hour shifts in a row, and then take 3 or so days off and revert back to a daytime waking schedule. And their work hours are a little random to begin with

So yeah, logistical issues for sure...
 

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Not only that, many of them have this weird thing where they work 3 or so 12-hour shifts in a row, and then take 3 or so days off and revert back to a daytime waking schedule. And their work hours are a little random to begin with

So yeah, logistical issues for sure...
Yea that's what she's on. I dont know how that works physically or mentally but I imagine it can be taxing.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Dated (& dating) day/swing nurses. It was/is fine. But not sure about night. Then again, I’m in health care, so there’s that.
 

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My neighbor is a single mother ICU nurse working nights lately. So yeah, there is isolation and off-balanced sleep schedules for her. She got a dog and a cat and the kid or kids don't live with her. I spent nearly all of my 20's working wacked schedules in a factory, in law enforcement and then in the military so I understand the efforts and energy needed for that lifestyle. She comes off as a female going her own way though.
 

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Hi Jay,
A Nurses job is very unsociable and they have problems finding partners....The Married ones resent the night shifts and it is the Single Girls who have to sacrifice their Social lives....This of course represents a Godsend to the Plate spinner...Though it can be rather tiring as you jump out of one bed and into another...Hank is right as being both anatomically savvy and usually fit they make excellent partners.
 

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I work nights at Amazon in a sortation hub. It's one of my days off and here I am
at 05.15 local time, wide awake but preparing to go to sleep in the next hour or so
until usually about 1pm. These are the same hours I keep when I'm working, it's
easier to stay in "night mode" even on time off so as to not disrupt ones body clock
and natural sleep/wake rhythm too much. A lot of my colleagues do the same.
It's only really a pain in the butt when I have things I need to do inside of office hours.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Good stuff. Well we're doing the little song and dance right now with texting, trying to set something up. My schedule is the complete opposite of hers so communication has been very minimal. Typically by now I'd know a girl a bit better and the date would already be set. But we'll see I suppose.
 

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The contributions made so far on the subject are all very interesting and valid, but i wish to present a slightly different angle.

Night shift nurses in committed relationships have the perfect cover for nefarious activities, if they wish to misbehave. Back in my mid 20s l for about 6months I was fvcking a nurse who was stuck in an unhappy relationship. She was engaged to her boyfriend of 4years but was unhappy and looking for a way out. She used to take leave from work but not tell her fiancee. So on those leave dates she’d put on her uniform as normal, jump into her car as if she’s going to work but come over to my place instead. She would spend the whole night in my bed and set her alarm for 7am, when she’d wake up and go home, as if she’s coming from work. Being a young guy, I used to get a buzz from fvcking a real nurse in a real nurse’s uniform.

If you date a nurse or any professional who works night shifts, be prepared for the above-mentioned possibility.

Thank you.
 

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The contributions made so far on the subject are all very interesting and valid, but i wish to present a slightly different angle.

Night shift nurses in committed relationships have the perfect cover for nefarious activities, if they wish to misbehave. Back in my mid 20s l for about 6months I was fvcking a nurse who was stuck in an unhappy relationship. She was engaged to her boyfriend of 4years but was unhappy and looking for a way out. She used to take leave from work but not tell her fiancee. So on those leave dates she’d put on her uniform as normal, jump into her car as if she’s going to work but come over to my place instead. She would spend the whole night in my bed and set her alarm for 7am, when she’d wake up and go home, as if she’s coming from work. Being a young guy, I used to get a buzz from fvcking a real nurse in a real nurse’s uniform.

If you date a nurse or any professional who works night shifts, be prepared for the above-mentioned possibility.

Thank you.
Women are usually better at having affairs than men are. Don't let that comment derail this thread.

I have not met too many night shift nurses. I recall meeting one once on a day where I took a half day from work and went to a 4 PM or 5 PM fitness class. Other than that, I can't recall any meeting of night shift nurses.
 

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The contributions made so far on the subject are all very interesting and valid, but i wish to present a slightly different angle.

Night shift nurses in committed relationships have the perfect cover for nefarious activities, if they wish to misbehave. Back in my mid 20s l for about 6months I was fvcking a nurse who was stuck in an unhappy relationship. She was engaged to her boyfriend of 4years but was unhappy and looking for a way out. She used to take leave from work but not tell her fiancee. So on those leave dates she’d put on her uniform as normal, jump into her car as if she’s going to work but come over to my place instead. She would spend the whole night in my bed and set her alarm for 7am, when she’d wake up and go home, as if she’s coming from work. Being a young guy, I used to get a buzz from fvcking a real nurse in a real nurse’s uniform.

If you date a nurse or any professional who works night shifts, be prepared for the above-mentioned possibility.

Thank you.
Seems like the consensus is to not take this woman serious. And I'm good with that. She seemed like the party type when I met her so that helps keep things in perspective.
 

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Depends which specialty....

There would not be nurses in a lot of those fields. I think this is more applicable for female doctors. In general, I recommend staying away from women with masters level degrees or higher. If you want a good girlfriend, in most cases you want a woman with a bachelor's degree or less. Her BA/BS degree should be a state university and some not elitist school.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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