Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Nurses are FWB only. It is a single woman / single mother profession. Do not get serious with a nurse.Anyone have experience? I'd like to hear your thoughts, pros/cons, etc.
My cousin was married to a nurse who likely monkey branched him. They had 2 kids together and our family strongly suspects that she was having an affair with a doctor at the hospital. She was late 30s and a mom of 2 kids. The divorce was filed for about 6 months before the pandemic started and she's already introduced the kids to a new man, which might be a hospital doctor or some other dude.Nurses are FWB only. It is a single woman / single mother profession. Do not get serious with a nurse.
Not only that, many of them have this weird thing where they work 3 or so 12-hour shifts in a row, and then take 3 or so days off and revert back to a daytime waking schedule. And their work hours are a little random to begin withI have not dated a night shift nurse. If you're a regular day shift, white collar office worker, I can imagine that it would be challenging to line up schedules with a night shift nurse.
Yea that's what she's on. I dont know how that works physically or mentally but I imagine it can be taxing.Not only that, many of them have this weird thing where they work 3 or so 12-hour shifts in a row, and then take 3 or so days off and revert back to a daytime waking schedule. And their work hours are a little random to begin with
So yeah, logistical issues for sure...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Women are usually better at having affairs than men are. Don't let that comment derail this thread.The contributions made so far on the subject are all very interesting and valid, but i wish to present a slightly different angle.
Night shift nurses in committed relationships have the perfect cover for nefarious activities, if they wish to misbehave. Back in my mid 20s l for about 6months I was fvcking a nurse who was stuck in an unhappy relationship. She was engaged to her boyfriend of 4years but was unhappy and looking for a way out. She used to take leave from work but not tell her fiancee. So on those leave dates she’d put on her uniform as normal, jump into her car as if she’s going to work but come over to my place instead. She would spend the whole night in my bed and set her alarm for 7am, when she’d wake up and go home, as if she’s coming from work. Being a young guy, I used to get a buzz from fvcking a real nurse in a real nurse’s uniform.
If you date a nurse or any professional who works night shifts, be prepared for the above-mentioned possibility.
Thank you.
Seems like the consensus is to not take this woman serious. And I'm good with that. She seemed like the party type when I met her so that helps keep things in perspective.The contributions made so far on the subject are all very interesting and valid, but i wish to present a slightly different angle.
Night shift nurses in committed relationships have the perfect cover for nefarious activities, if they wish to misbehave. Back in my mid 20s l for about 6months I was fvcking a nurse who was stuck in an unhappy relationship. She was engaged to her boyfriend of 4years but was unhappy and looking for a way out. She used to take leave from work but not tell her fiancee. So on those leave dates she’d put on her uniform as normal, jump into her car as if she’s going to work but come over to my place instead. She would spend the whole night in my bed and set her alarm for 7am, when she’d wake up and go home, as if she’s coming from work. Being a young guy, I used to get a buzz from fvcking a real nurse in a real nurse’s uniform.
If you date a nurse or any professional who works night shifts, be prepared for the above-mentioned possibility.
Thank you.
There would not be nurses in a lot of those fields. I think this is more applicable for female doctors. In general, I recommend staying away from women with masters level degrees or higher. If you want a good girlfriend, in most cases you want a woman with a bachelor's degree or less. Her BA/BS degree should be a state university and some not elitist school.Depends which specialty....
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.