I'm wondering guys what your experiences are with dating women that are a year-two older than you, does it work, do you feel weird, and SMV-wise, do you feel that you're having a harder time competing with other men, possibly more experienced? I'm thinking of this because, statistically, I seem to click more with women older than me (23-24 years old), women younger than me which apparently I should be dating like 19-20-21 seem to childish to me and very boring, but when it comes to closing I'm more successful with younger women, although they are unsuitable for anything more than ONS, at least for me.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Dating 1-2 year older women
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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No. I mean seriously? 1-2 years? Who cares
MrWood
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exactly. In Finland the woman being 1-5yr older is super common in LTR/Marriage
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At your age, it's definitely not an issue.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
i agree. All the dates I go on and usually message on OLD are 3 to 13 years older than me.
Well, for me it's not an issue, but it seems that my success rate with older women is low. I'm thinking because older men are dating down and they beat me by SMV, e.g. a 23 year-old would prefer probably someone more experienced in their 30s compared to me. I'm in Eastern Europe for the record. I'm thinking of lifting more and tightening up my game, maybe I'm coming a little bit insecure which puts them off (somehow I have a feeling that because the girl is older than me she'll look at me as if I was a kid, idk if it happened to you)
MrWood
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i put my take on mens age vs girls ages for dating on another thread... something like this:
you / her
18-28 = 18-35 (dating)
29-38 = 22-34 (marriage time)
38-50 = 26-50 (LTR material)
50+ = 22-42 (for fun)
you / her
18-28 = 18-35 (dating)
29-38 = 22-34 (marriage time)
38-50 = 26-50 (LTR material)
50+ = 22-42 (for fun)
I dont see too many of that age range for me on old unless they're land whales.
The better looking women on old down here are over 35.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.