I'm wondering guys what your experiences are with dating women that are a year-two older than you, does it work, do you feel weird, and SMV-wise, do you feel that you're having a harder time competing with other men, possibly more experienced? I'm thinking of this because, statistically, I seem to click more with women older than me (23-24 years old), women younger than me which apparently I should be dating like 19-20-21 seem to childish to me and very boring, but when it comes to closing I'm more successful with younger women, although they are unsuitable for anything more than ONS, at least for me.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dating 1-2 year older women
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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No. I mean seriously? 1-2 years? Who cares
MrWood
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exactly. In Finland the woman being 1-5yr older is super common in LTR/Marriage
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At your age, it's definitely not an issue.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
i agree. All the dates I go on and usually message on OLD are 3 to 13 years older than me.
Well, for me it's not an issue, but it seems that my success rate with older women is low. I'm thinking because older men are dating down and they beat me by SMV, e.g. a 23 year-old would prefer probably someone more experienced in their 30s compared to me. I'm in Eastern Europe for the record. I'm thinking of lifting more and tightening up my game, maybe I'm coming a little bit insecure which puts them off (somehow I have a feeling that because the girl is older than me she'll look at me as if I was a kid, idk if it happened to you)
MrWood
Master Don Juan
i put my take on mens age vs girls ages for dating on another thread... something like this:
you / her
18-28 = 18-35 (dating)
29-38 = 22-34 (marriage time)
38-50 = 26-50 (LTR material)
50+ = 22-42 (for fun)
you / her
18-28 = 18-35 (dating)
29-38 = 22-34 (marriage time)
38-50 = 26-50 (LTR material)
50+ = 22-42 (for fun)
I dont see too many of that age range for me on old unless they're land whales.
The better looking women on old down here are over 35.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.