"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Daily Journal for Cold Approaches
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
NumenMalefic
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why u care *****
NumenMalefic
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yo momma is pms byatch
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
NumenMalefic
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thefonz
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This thread started in 2003
.......and ended in 2005 Can't you tell?
avrilishot
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
SuperChillies
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"are you single ? " easy out for any girl , and a girl doesn't want to be thought of as a slut.
but I think the basic idea of Pook "embrace your mansculity" is what your getting at and, thats good.
Indeed that thread is awesome. I'm getting in the field tonight for the first time (worked on my mind set first of course). Let's try this in Montreal Canada, I'm curious to see what reactions I'll get. I'll have to approach in canadian french (which is my first language) then in english (which is my favorite, but also my second language and I still have a strong accent haha).
I never been rejected of my whole life yet I ever feared it. Time to get rejected I think, its like fearing heights, if you never put yourself through your fear and actually see how it isn't that bad, then you have 1000 doors now opened.
My friends are almost all very good in doing CAs (my brother is the best of all) so I don't see what I am waiting for. So I am saying let's have a good laugh tonight and prove people wrong about their ideas on CAs!
If you guys have any idea about that (or having done that in Montreal) I'd be glad to hear form you. First post dude!
BossMan
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one question i'd like to know is what is the first thing you say when you stop a girl? how are you starting all these convos?
There is a HUGE difference between asking "do you have a bf?" and "are you single?" Asking if they are single says all the right things while asking if they have a bf displays insecurity.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
It's crazy to look back at my old self on this message board!!! I haven't been on sosuave for a few years now.....I'm very happy I went through all of these successes and rejections. I gained more skills and confidence from this simple approach than any book or seminar.
This type of approach worked great for me because I used to be a shy guy that lacked confidence talking to girls/people in general. I needed something that would push me out of my shell and off this message board, and this approach brought me into a new world.
Can this work for everyone??? No, I think everyone needs to understand their strenghts and weaknesses. Some guys can approach already, but they need help becoming better conversationalist. Some guys can't approach, so they need something to get them out there approaching women.....Etc
I never intended for this journal to become the ultimate PUA. I just wanted to be able to choose any girl that I see everyday on the street/library/coffee shop/cafe/etc, and I've accomplished that goal!
It is great to see you are alive and presumably well!
You were long gone when I first joined sosuave years ago, and it was reading this journal of yours that helped inspire me to begin cold approaching. I eventually landed a very pretty girl who became my 4-year LTR from a bookstore cold approach. While that didn't ultimately work out between her and me, I have done over 100 approaches since late last year and maintain an approach journal here on sosuave to this very day.
And it was all because of you (and a guy named Pugsley who was after you) that I believed in the cold approach and believed in myself enough to get out in the field and start making a better life.
Thank you for everything you have done.
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/sho...threadid=20096
Does anyone know where to find this post?
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