"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Daily Journal for Cold Approaches
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
NumenMalefic
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why u care *****
NumenMalefic
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yo momma is pms byatch
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
NumenMalefic
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thefonz
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This thread started in 2003
.......and ended in 2005 Can't you tell?
avrilishot
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SuperChillies
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"are you single ? " easy out for any girl , and a girl doesn't want to be thought of as a slut.
but I think the basic idea of Pook "embrace your mansculity" is what your getting at and, thats good.
Indeed that thread is awesome. I'm getting in the field tonight for the first time (worked on my mind set first of course). Let's try this in Montreal Canada, I'm curious to see what reactions I'll get. I'll have to approach in canadian french (which is my first language) then in english (which is my favorite, but also my second language and I still have a strong accent haha).
I never been rejected of my whole life yet I ever feared it. Time to get rejected I think, its like fearing heights, if you never put yourself through your fear and actually see how it isn't that bad, then you have 1000 doors now opened.
My friends are almost all very good in doing CAs (my brother is the best of all) so I don't see what I am waiting for. So I am saying let's have a good laugh tonight and prove people wrong about their ideas on CAs!
If you guys have any idea about that (or having done that in Montreal) I'd be glad to hear form you. First post dude!
BossMan
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one question i'd like to know is what is the first thing you say when you stop a girl? how are you starting all these convos?
There is a HUGE difference between asking "do you have a bf?" and "are you single?" Asking if they are single says all the right things while asking if they have a bf displays insecurity.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It's crazy to look back at my old self on this message board!!! I haven't been on sosuave for a few years now.....I'm very happy I went through all of these successes and rejections. I gained more skills and confidence from this simple approach than any book or seminar.
This type of approach worked great for me because I used to be a shy guy that lacked confidence talking to girls/people in general. I needed something that would push me out of my shell and off this message board, and this approach brought me into a new world.
Can this work for everyone??? No, I think everyone needs to understand their strenghts and weaknesses. Some guys can approach already, but they need help becoming better conversationalist. Some guys can't approach, so they need something to get them out there approaching women.....Etc
I never intended for this journal to become the ultimate PUA. I just wanted to be able to choose any girl that I see everyday on the street/library/coffee shop/cafe/etc, and I've accomplished that goal!
It is great to see you are alive and presumably well!
You were long gone when I first joined sosuave years ago, and it was reading this journal of yours that helped inspire me to begin cold approaching. I eventually landed a very pretty girl who became my 4-year LTR from a bookstore cold approach. While that didn't ultimately work out between her and me, I have done over 100 approaches since late last year and maintain an approach journal here on sosuave to this very day.
And it was all because of you (and a guy named Pugsley who was after you) that I believed in the cold approach and believed in myself enough to get out in the field and start making a better life.
Thank you for everything you have done.
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/sho...threadid=20096
Does anyone know where to find this post?
Cappo Yung
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