"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Daily Journal for Cold Approaches
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
NumenMalefic
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why u care *****
NumenMalefic
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yo momma is pms byatch
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
NumenMalefic
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thefonz
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This thread started in 2003
.......and ended in 2005 Can't you tell?
avrilishot
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
SuperChillies
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"are you single ? " easy out for any girl , and a girl doesn't want to be thought of as a slut.
but I think the basic idea of Pook "embrace your mansculity" is what your getting at and, thats good.
Indeed that thread is awesome. I'm getting in the field tonight for the first time (worked on my mind set first of course). Let's try this in Montreal Canada, I'm curious to see what reactions I'll get. I'll have to approach in canadian french (which is my first language) then in english (which is my favorite, but also my second language and I still have a strong accent haha).
I never been rejected of my whole life yet I ever feared it. Time to get rejected I think, its like fearing heights, if you never put yourself through your fear and actually see how it isn't that bad, then you have 1000 doors now opened.
My friends are almost all very good in doing CAs (my brother is the best of all) so I don't see what I am waiting for. So I am saying let's have a good laugh tonight and prove people wrong about their ideas on CAs!
If you guys have any idea about that (or having done that in Montreal) I'd be glad to hear form you. First post dude!
BossMan
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one question i'd like to know is what is the first thing you say when you stop a girl? how are you starting all these convos?
There is a HUGE difference between asking "do you have a bf?" and "are you single?" Asking if they are single says all the right things while asking if they have a bf displays insecurity.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It's crazy to look back at my old self on this message board!!! I haven't been on sosuave for a few years now.....I'm very happy I went through all of these successes and rejections. I gained more skills and confidence from this simple approach than any book or seminar.
This type of approach worked great for me because I used to be a shy guy that lacked confidence talking to girls/people in general. I needed something that would push me out of my shell and off this message board, and this approach brought me into a new world.
Can this work for everyone??? No, I think everyone needs to understand their strenghts and weaknesses. Some guys can approach already, but they need help becoming better conversationalist. Some guys can't approach, so they need something to get them out there approaching women.....Etc
I never intended for this journal to become the ultimate PUA. I just wanted to be able to choose any girl that I see everyday on the street/library/coffee shop/cafe/etc, and I've accomplished that goal!
It is great to see you are alive and presumably well!
You were long gone when I first joined sosuave years ago, and it was reading this journal of yours that helped inspire me to begin cold approaching. I eventually landed a very pretty girl who became my 4-year LTR from a bookstore cold approach. While that didn't ultimately work out between her and me, I have done over 100 approaches since late last year and maintain an approach journal here on sosuave to this very day.
And it was all because of you (and a guy named Pugsley who was after you) that I believed in the cold approach and believed in myself enough to get out in the field and start making a better life.
Thank you for everything you have done.
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/sho...threadid=20096
Does anyone know where to find this post?
Cappo Yung
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