"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Currently working on my clothes; this shirt, yay or nay?

Shivastorm_88

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I've recently decided to stop dressing like a little kid with graphic tees and wear nicer clothes (polos, dress shirts, nicer fitting pants, etc.).

So I found this old dress shirt in my closest, but I'm a bit iffy about it, so I need opinions (mind you, I wouldn't normally be wearing capri with it)

I have lighter skin, as well as blue eyes

P.S. No it's not my room :D


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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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its ok but chequered shirts went out of fashion last summer also you seem to have a wierd body shape which makes u look round around the waiste
 

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A black and white checkered shirt is good with jeans, but you need a much smaller checker pattern. The pattern is too large on that shirt.

I would say smaller pattern checker shirt with jeans if you want to rock that look.
 
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Shivastorm_88

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scribblec said:
its ok but chequered shirts went out of fashion last summer also you seem to have a wierd body shape which makes u look round around the waiste
Heh I do have a weird shape on that picture, but it's due to the angle of the shot, that would be an odd deformity o_O

Anyways I guess this shirt is a negative
 

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Personally, not a fan of the shirt. Looks dated and sloppy.

I'm picky when it comes to clothes. To the point a lot of my guy friends call me a woman, but whatever. I like what I like. 90% of button-downs that I see, I absolutely hate. There are so few generic brand button-downs that I think look good, fit right, and last over time. So, it's possible I'm being my normal picky self, and it doesn't matter to you as much. But I'm taking the fact that you are changing your wardrobe, and created a thread about this shirt to mean that it does matter to you.

I would recommend getting a more updated style, and look for Fitted cut. That will solve the issue scribblec mentioned.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Amazing how the ad I'm looking at on this page is for similar checkered shirts.

Google knows all...
 

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Don't do it. It looks like a tablecloth.
 

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hideous shirt. please trash it or give it away.

aim for slim fitted shirts.
 

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wow that shirt looks like an optical illusion, it makes me dizzy looking at it.

thats not hte point though. checkered shirts arent bad at all. dont use this one.. get one that has a more uniform pattern, SLIM FITTING, and try mixing it up by wearing it over a plain white t or something like that. and roll up the sleeves
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I have to agree with my fellow djs, lose the shirt playboy
 

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Go to Marshalls/Tj maxx. Grab 5-6 nautica/ralph lauren polo shirts. No gay patterns just solid colors. Nothing loud like turquoise or anything. 35-40$ a.piece. Dry clean them every 2nd wear, never wash. Hang them up never in dresser.
They will last for years, literally.
Go to oldnavy store/website order 2-3 pair of cargo shorts.
Go to nordstroms rack and grab 2 pair of sperry loafers the suede kind. Not the ugly rubbery ones.

Get 2 nice pair of jeans. I mean nice 200$ true religions/s7even/Rockin Republic.
Obviously never wash them. Dry clean without the creases.

Grab a 30$ pack of ralph lauren v neck ts. This you will have to buy often. Try to keep once on stand by. If you get white ones its one wear and done, coloref ones you can get a few wears out of.

Keep your shoes in mint condition. Its the first thing they look at. You do this by having 10-15 pairs and never wearing the same ones in a week. Start with 2 and add on every payday. It doesn't have to be real expensive shoes but have a lot. She should see a different sure / outfit every day. I don't wear suits they are hot and gay. I do slacks with shirt and tie but if you really want a suite go for it.

Get a nice watch thats real. 200 bucks at pawn shop will get you something decent. Go gold.
Keep your hair neat. Finger nails clean.

This sounds like a lot but its done over time. Buy a thing or 2 when you can.
Don't wear your good stuff to go hang with your boys, you will dog it. Wear something chill with them. Save the new stuff for dates.

And no outfit is complete without the right cologne.

Detailed but I hope it helps.
 

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cola said:
Go to Marshalls/Tj maxx. Grab 5-6 nautica/ralph lauren polo shirts. No gay patterns just solid colors. Nothing loud like turquoise or anything. 35-40$ a.piece. Dry clean them every 2nd wear, never wash. Hang them up never in dresser.
They will last for years, literally.
Go to oldnavy store/website order 2-3 pair of cargo shorts.
Go to nordstroms rack and grab 2 pair of sperry loafers the suede kind. Not the ugly rubbery ones.

Get 2 nice pair of jeans. I mean nice 200$ true religions/s7even/Rockin Republic.
Obviously never wash them. Dry clean without the creases.

Grab a 30$ pack of ralph lauren v neck ts. This you will have to buy often. Try to keep once on stand by. If you get white ones its one wear and done, coloref ones you can get a few wears out of.

Keep your shoes in mint condition. Its the first thing they look at. You do this by having 10-15 pairs and never wearing the same ones in a week. Start with 2 and add on every payday. It doesn't have to be real expensive shoes but have a lot. She should see a different sure / outfit every day. I don't wear suits they are hot and gay. I do slacks with shirt and tie but if you really want a suite go for it.

Get a nice watch thats real. 200 bucks at pawn shop will get you something decent. Go gold.
Keep your hair neat. Finger nails clean.

This sounds like a lot but its done over time. Buy a thing or 2 when you can.
Don't wear your good stuff to go hang with your boys, you will dog it. Wear something chill with them. Save the new stuff for dates.

And no outfit is complete without the right cologne.

Detailed but I hope it helps.

solid advice
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I've standardized my button downs to the fitted cut shirts from Express. They come in lots of colors and patterns, and can be bought for cheap on eBay ($20 vs. $60 retail). Don't have to think about that sh*t anymore.
 
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