"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Crazy OLD experience...first time this has happened...

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It's a bull**** story.

Tell her this :

"We will do something another time. Take care"
I told her "Hey going to cancel for Sunday. Maybe some other time"

Her response: "Oh?"

I tell her "I typically don't date women your age because I find them too immature and trying to invite a friend along for a double date doesn't exactly scream maturity to me. If I was in highschool then sure, that would have been cool. But I'm not."

I really wanted to send her this link too but I didn't
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I told her "Hey going to cancel for Sunday. Maybe some other time"

Her response: "Oh?"

I tell her "I typically don't date women your age because I find them too immature and trying to invite a friend along for a double date doesn't exactly scream maturity to me. If I was in highschool then sure, that would have been cool. But I'm not."

I really wanted to send her this link too but I didn't
you lost all respect at this point....

Less is more. You come off butthurt.
 

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Chicks can be interested and still tell the guy to invite a friend so her girl friend doesn't miss out. Happened to a friend of mine but he wasn't interested in her and blew her off.

In any case, it's disrespectful.
 

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You set a date last Friday for this Monday (8/31)? Why didn't you just leave it at that?

Either she shows up or she doesn't. This is of course after you've confirmed an hour or so prior to the date.

I personally don't engage with them much prior to the date unless they reach out, or if I have something good to share. Before meeting in person, texts can be very easily misconstrued, therefore causing them to question going to the date.

At this point though, it sounds like she's playing games... And your response wasn't necessary. I probably would have left the date as is, and attempted to woo one of the two women. It would also be a secondary option if something better came along.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What happened from the time SHE decided to go on the date with you on Friday is her hamster wheel started spinning and she started talking with her friend(s). That's usually where the trouble starts. She probably got feedback and advice from her friend(s) and could no longer think for herself and second guessed her judgement/decisions.

I always say you're not dating her. You're most likely dating her and her friends. Women are incapable of thinking for themselves a lot of the times.

This is something out of your control and something you should identify early on as you just did and move on or have very low investment if you wanna keep the door open.
 

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What happened from the time SHE decided to go on the date with you on Friday is her hamster wheel started spinning and she started talking with her friend(s). That's usually where the trouble starts. She probably got feedback and advice from her friend(s) and could no longer think for herself and second guessed her judgement/decisions.

I always say you're not dating her. You're most likely dating her and her friends. Women are incapable of thinking for themselves a lot of the times.

This is something out of your control and something you should identify early on as you just did and move on or have very low investment if you wanna keep the door open.
I need to work on establishing better standards for myself and if I have to lose some women along the way that I didn't need to because I haven't figured out how to properly do it yet, that is the price to pay I guess. I will figure it out and get better at communicating them. I am assuming it should covert not overt...I struggle with this sometimes
 
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Women communicate covertly. Men overtly.

First girl I had sex with I flatly told her "I don't love you, I just wanna fúck you" after a couple days. She monkey branched to Plan B.

She was gonna do that anyway. I maintained my respect for myself by being direct. No amount of beta nice guy game was gonna keep that teenage sloot around and I knew it.
 

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I know the rule is try to set up a date in 7 days or less but now a days women are so forward if it's not in 3 days or less that means you're just a backup

just my opinion
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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