MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Not surprised by this at all. In American culture, women are seen as the prize. In Russian culture, it's the exact opposite.MatureDJ said:
The claim made in the video is misleading. It is true that there are significantly more women than men in Russia...but only if you take into account people over 65. The average life expectancy for men and women in Russia is 64 and 76 years, respectively, so there is naturally a lot more old women around. According to wikipedia, the ratio for people in the 15-65 group is 0.92/1, which is not a huge difference. And I bet you that for people in their 20s and 30s, the ratio is close to 1:1.Who Dares Win said:In Russia women outnumber men, nothing else to explain, is said at the beginning.
I respectfully disagree, been clubbing everywhere in western europe since 2005 and still have to find a club with more girls than guys except few places in poland while the few times I've been in Belarus and Russia the 1:1 ration was the norm and quite often more girls than guys even after 2am.Bokanovsky said:The claim made in the video is misleading. It is true that there are significantly more women than men in Russia...but only if you take into account people over 65. The average life expectancy for men and women in Russia is 64 and 76 years, respectively, so there is naturally a lot more old women around. According to wikipedia, the ratio for people in the 15-65 group is 0.92/1, which is not a huge difference. And I bet you that for people in their 20s and 30s, the ratio is close to 1:1.
Like I said, it's all about culture.
Again, cultural differences. In North America, clubs are filled with horny, sexually frustrated dudes hoping to "get lucky". In Russia, guys don't need to go to clubs to get laid. That's why you don't have the sausage fest scene over there. Trust me, I know what I'm talking about. I lived in Russia for a couple of years.Who Dares Win said:I respectfully disagree, been clubbing everywhere in western europe since 2005 and still have to find a club with more girls than guys except few places in poland while the few times I've been in Belarus and Russia the 1:1 ration was the norm and quite often more girls than guys even after 2am.
Its not culture which shapes society but the other way around.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Okay, if the answer isn't what Bokanovsky said, why do women outnumber men in Russia? They haven't fought any more wars than we have in the US, less in fact.Who Dares Win said:I respectfully disagree, been clubbing everywhere in western europe since 2005 and still have to find a club with more girls than guys except few places in poland while the few times I've been in Belarus and Russia the 1:1 ration was the norm and quite often more girls than guys even after 2am..
In all honesty I have no idea, checked some sites for demographics which confirms what bokanowsky said regarding ratio (being them not unbalanced), yet what I saw with my own eyes remains.zekko said:Okay, if the answer isn't what Bokanovsky said, why do women outnumber men in Russia? They haven't fought any more wars than we have in the US, less in fact.
Just looking at the raw stats is a bit misleading. That there is pickup for women suggests that for (quality) men, it's a seller's market, for whatever reason, just as it is for women in the states.zekko said:Okay, if the answer isn't what Bokanovsky said, why do women outnumber men in Russia? They haven't fought any more wars than we have in the US, less in fact.
Nobody blinks when men pay for instructions on pretty much everything else , but paying to learn probably the most important and one of the hardest things they do in life somehow is... weird.zekko said:I can barely imagine men paying for them.
Similar classes in other parts of Asia too, although the non-beta part is optional.taiyu said:There's actually "pick up" classes here in Japan that are similar, but they're more like how to pick up a high income, non-beta males.
goundra said:there is no room for more than about 10% of men to be alpha. The rest have to settle for what they can get. You make up your mind which you are going to be, and go for it.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.