MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Not surprised by this at all. In American culture, women are seen as the prize. In Russian culture, it's the exact opposite.MatureDJ said:
The claim made in the video is misleading. It is true that there are significantly more women than men in Russia...but only if you take into account people over 65. The average life expectancy for men and women in Russia is 64 and 76 years, respectively, so there is naturally a lot more old women around. According to wikipedia, the ratio for people in the 15-65 group is 0.92/1, which is not a huge difference. And I bet you that for people in their 20s and 30s, the ratio is close to 1:1.Who Dares Win said:In Russia women outnumber men, nothing else to explain, is said at the beginning.
I respectfully disagree, been clubbing everywhere in western europe since 2005 and still have to find a club with more girls than guys except few places in poland while the few times I've been in Belarus and Russia the 1:1 ration was the norm and quite often more girls than guys even after 2am.Bokanovsky said:The claim made in the video is misleading. It is true that there are significantly more women than men in Russia...but only if you take into account people over 65. The average life expectancy for men and women in Russia is 64 and 76 years, respectively, so there is naturally a lot more old women around. According to wikipedia, the ratio for people in the 15-65 group is 0.92/1, which is not a huge difference. And I bet you that for people in their 20s and 30s, the ratio is close to 1:1.
Like I said, it's all about culture.
Again, cultural differences. In North America, clubs are filled with horny, sexually frustrated dudes hoping to "get lucky". In Russia, guys don't need to go to clubs to get laid. That's why you don't have the sausage fest scene over there. Trust me, I know what I'm talking about. I lived in Russia for a couple of years.Who Dares Win said:I respectfully disagree, been clubbing everywhere in western europe since 2005 and still have to find a club with more girls than guys except few places in poland while the few times I've been in Belarus and Russia the 1:1 ration was the norm and quite often more girls than guys even after 2am.
Its not culture which shapes society but the other way around.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Okay, if the answer isn't what Bokanovsky said, why do women outnumber men in Russia? They haven't fought any more wars than we have in the US, less in fact.Who Dares Win said:I respectfully disagree, been clubbing everywhere in western europe since 2005 and still have to find a club with more girls than guys except few places in poland while the few times I've been in Belarus and Russia the 1:1 ration was the norm and quite often more girls than guys even after 2am..
In all honesty I have no idea, checked some sites for demographics which confirms what bokanowsky said regarding ratio (being them not unbalanced), yet what I saw with my own eyes remains.zekko said:Okay, if the answer isn't what Bokanovsky said, why do women outnumber men in Russia? They haven't fought any more wars than we have in the US, less in fact.
Just looking at the raw stats is a bit misleading. That there is pickup for women suggests that for (quality) men, it's a seller's market, for whatever reason, just as it is for women in the states.zekko said:Okay, if the answer isn't what Bokanovsky said, why do women outnumber men in Russia? They haven't fought any more wars than we have in the US, less in fact.
Nobody blinks when men pay for instructions on pretty much everything else , but paying to learn probably the most important and one of the hardest things they do in life somehow is... weird.zekko said:I can barely imagine men paying for them.
Similar classes in other parts of Asia too, although the non-beta part is optional.taiyu said:There's actually "pick up" classes here in Japan that are similar, but they're more like how to pick up a high income, non-beta males.
goundra said:there is no room for more than about 10% of men to be alpha. The rest have to settle for what they can get. You make up your mind which you are going to be, and go for it.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.