MatureDJ
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Not surprised by this at all. In American culture, women are seen as the prize. In Russian culture, it's the exact opposite.MatureDJ said:
The claim made in the video is misleading. It is true that there are significantly more women than men in Russia...but only if you take into account people over 65. The average life expectancy for men and women in Russia is 64 and 76 years, respectively, so there is naturally a lot more old women around. According to wikipedia, the ratio for people in the 15-65 group is 0.92/1, which is not a huge difference. And I bet you that for people in their 20s and 30s, the ratio is close to 1:1.Who Dares Win said:In Russia women outnumber men, nothing else to explain, is said at the beginning.
I respectfully disagree, been clubbing everywhere in western europe since 2005 and still have to find a club with more girls than guys except few places in poland while the few times I've been in Belarus and Russia the 1:1 ration was the norm and quite often more girls than guys even after 2am.Bokanovsky said:The claim made in the video is misleading. It is true that there are significantly more women than men in Russia...but only if you take into account people over 65. The average life expectancy for men and women in Russia is 64 and 76 years, respectively, so there is naturally a lot more old women around. According to wikipedia, the ratio for people in the 15-65 group is 0.92/1, which is not a huge difference. And I bet you that for people in their 20s and 30s, the ratio is close to 1:1.
Like I said, it's all about culture.
Again, cultural differences. In North America, clubs are filled with horny, sexually frustrated dudes hoping to "get lucky". In Russia, guys don't need to go to clubs to get laid. That's why you don't have the sausage fest scene over there. Trust me, I know what I'm talking about. I lived in Russia for a couple of years.Who Dares Win said:I respectfully disagree, been clubbing everywhere in western europe since 2005 and still have to find a club with more girls than guys except few places in poland while the few times I've been in Belarus and Russia the 1:1 ration was the norm and quite often more girls than guys even after 2am.
Its not culture which shapes society but the other way around.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Okay, if the answer isn't what Bokanovsky said, why do women outnumber men in Russia? They haven't fought any more wars than we have in the US, less in fact.Who Dares Win said:I respectfully disagree, been clubbing everywhere in western europe since 2005 and still have to find a club with more girls than guys except few places in poland while the few times I've been in Belarus and Russia the 1:1 ration was the norm and quite often more girls than guys even after 2am..
In all honesty I have no idea, checked some sites for demographics which confirms what bokanowsky said regarding ratio (being them not unbalanced), yet what I saw with my own eyes remains.zekko said:Okay, if the answer isn't what Bokanovsky said, why do women outnumber men in Russia? They haven't fought any more wars than we have in the US, less in fact.
Just looking at the raw stats is a bit misleading. That there is pickup for women suggests that for (quality) men, it's a seller's market, for whatever reason, just as it is for women in the states.zekko said:Okay, if the answer isn't what Bokanovsky said, why do women outnumber men in Russia? They haven't fought any more wars than we have in the US, less in fact.
Nobody blinks when men pay for instructions on pretty much everything else , but paying to learn probably the most important and one of the hardest things they do in life somehow is... weird.zekko said:I can barely imagine men paying for them.
Similar classes in other parts of Asia too, although the non-beta part is optional.taiyu said:There's actually "pick up" classes here in Japan that are similar, but they're more like how to pick up a high income, non-beta males.
goundra said:there is no room for more than about 10% of men to be alpha. The rest have to settle for what they can get. You make up your mind which you are going to be, and go for it.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.